The anxiety of Moving
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person.
Just because you are having anxiety over some major life changes that are coming your way doesn`t mean that you aren`t strong. I think it`s very important to realize that "most" people would feel anxious in your shoes, anxiety disorder or not. Change is scary for most of us, it is the fear of the unknown that is the hardest. Remember that there will be others at graduate school that will feel the way you do, lonely and scared. There is also a good chance that things will go alot better than what you are imagining, anticipatory anxiety can reek havoc with us. If you do find yourself feeling overwhelmed, reach out and talk to others about it. Take care and good luck!! Jackie ~~*My soul can find no staircase to heaven unless it be through Earth`s loveliness~~* Michelangelo
Response:
HI there.. I too have moved from security to a new place with anxiety nippin at my every thought… this is what I did.. When I got to the new place I put everything aside and set up my bedroom first.. with familiar things i have had for years.. then I took my favorite blanket and just took a time out for me and lied down staring at all my stuff and getting to feel comfortable and knowing this is my new safe place…. You cant take your old community with you , so take the things that you find relaxing and very close to. And spend some time for yourself getting settled.. Once you feel comfortable with your new surroundings in the home.. you will start to feel better about familiarizing yourself outdoors! It worked for me! — " And that my friends is just my $0.02 worth" " Oh it’s true.. It’s damn true" Blondie #39174436
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person. ::::sigh::: Amy
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In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school.
Take a look at the positive. For simple things, you can keep in touch with phone and email. Also, sometimes a change in environment is a good thing, think of it as a fresh start.
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Hi Amy, See if you can find a therapist there *before* you leave, so you will have something solid waiting for you. You can always find a new one if he or she turns out to be a lemon. This will give you some support there and take away some of that feeling of no ties. Take care, Liz – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person. ::::sigh::: Amy
– The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time. —–Abraham Lincoln
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In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person. ::::sigh::: Amy
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Hi Amy ones you start moving you will be very bussy and feel better than you do know. You are in a waiting game now, and your mind is working verty hard , all kinds of reflection are comming up. this is the hardest period at the moment you are going through. Ones the last packing starts , you are moving on to a new lifestyle. Its a big change and that brings up all sorts of thougth’s. Yes you will be on your own and alone, but also NOT, because you will still have good contact with your parents, because you have a good relationship with them, you will have to settle for hearing thjem instaed of seeeing them but they will still be there for yoy and always will be. Other people have moved before you and they will also know that is has hard parts. You will find people in no time to talk to. Reach out for it. Try to relax a lot, be organised with everything, maybe already look in the phone book for helplines and services, not because you will need them, but to confirm that there are people out over there who are willing to help, and just the knoledge of knowing can be enough to pull you through. And look at the possitive sites as well. Although its 5 hours away it is 5 hours, it can be done in a day. I have emigrated twice while having AD, ok, ive got two kids and a husband , so I am not that alone, but small kids at that time was a job as well…I ve shifted a lot in the last 10 years…and my experience is that waiting is the hardest part always! You have done very very well by pushing the thougth away, and now its catching up, try to think possitive, OK You can do it and you will do it, and you are alone but also not alone! (((((((((Amy))))))))) Jeannette
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person. ::::sigh::: Amy
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I’m sure everything will work out for the best, but I would be anxious too in your shoes. Please let us know how you’re getting along. Sending you Di
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest time I was able to deal with this by avoiding thinking about it. I enjoied the *idea* of moving away and going to graduate school. It sounded like what I should be doing and it offered me a way to leave a state where I feel there is nothing left for me. After graduation my friends have moved on it feels as if we have drifted apart in only a few months. Even my parents are planning on moving out of my childhood home to a house that will never feel like home to me considering I will never really live there except for about a once a month visit. Everything that I had known is gone. It feels as if suddenly and rather rudly I am being forced to experience life totally alone. For the longest time I felt calm all the tension I had from the previous school year was gone, but now I find myself waking up in the middle of the night with my heart beating fast and having trouble breathing. Randomly I get the odd feeling of pure energy flowing threw my body and feeling dizzy and light headed. I really dont want to have to find a therapist first thing after I move, but I am worried as to how I will be living alone in a city where I know nothing and no one. I want to begin graduate school as the strong person I have become over this summer of relaxation, not the depressed anxiety ridden person. ::::sigh::: Amy
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In about one week I will leave my family, friends and the place I grew up to move 5 hours away to attend graduate school. For the longest
Graduate school-this is the goal. Conentrate on this rather then on the things you think you have lost-for you haven’t lost anything. You are you home and your family is always your family, good friends do drift but re-unite if the ties that bind are strong enough. This is insecure for you right now but as you expand yourself and your education you will grow into a new experience a new adventure and a new valuable aspect of your life. I know it is scary but you feel what you think-so change the way you think and change the way you feel. It is hard to let go of things and embrace change but to survive this is part of life and change is a constant. Grad school-grad school-the portal to a better life for you- LM
