Category: OCD

Goodwill training evaluation

Question:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – This is all new to me.  In 30 years I never had a job where you had specified break times.  I’ve only had 4 full time jobs in all those years and 15 of those years I was working for myself. I’ll give this a try, but from past experience (at home) I imagine myself being more tired then ever after a break.  It’s like the difference between a truck gaining speed for the next hill and the truck that stops then starts again at the bottom of the hill.  It takes a lot to keep my momentum going. I’ll try to be the "Little Engine that Could" and say "I think I can, I think I can".  ;-) Tony In construction type jobs that can be very dangerous, if it was found out that an injured employee was tired and missed breaks played a part in getting injured, the employer could have a lot to answer for.   It is the same thing with truckers driving past the allowed number of hours and then getting into an accident.

Well actually when I was a laborer for a mason I took breaks quite often, but I didn’t mention it since it was just a part time temp job and if I got hurt on the job, I didn’t work there. Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

Response:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Tony, I think it’s the same for all states for hourly workers – you work 2 hours, you take a 15 minute break. If you are scheduled for 9 hours of work, you take an hour lunch – 8.5 hours, it’s half an hour, after 4 hours of work, and another 15 minute break 2 hours after lunch — not taking those breaks and full lunches may be why your supervisor remarked about you being tired. I handle cash, and if I don’t get my breaks, I can get kind of dumb about things, and messing up with cash isn’t allowed. So.. every 2 hours (or so) take a break or your lunch. Use it to hang out with the other employees and get to know them, or go to your car and be alone and breathe.. whatever you need. It’s your time. Sally

Well I’ll give it a try since I have to.  I just hope that it helps more than it hurts.  Talking to my psychologist today, she completely understood my point about loosing momentum by taking a break and said that she is the same way.  Maybe I’ll get lucky and it will help? :-) Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Tony, I feel so good for you!  You deserve every happiness. Sorry I’m late to the party here, but I’m here today :-) Deirdre

Don’t be silly, nothing to be sorry about.  Anyway, your post is special since my OCD likes your posting time of  12:34 I don’t know if I look at the clock more than most people, but it’s amazing how often I’ll look and it will be 1:23 or to really fuel my OCD 12:34.  Can you tell I have this thing for numbers?  OCD is a strange thing.  I get some king of good feeling to see numbers in order like that.  And of course to see the car odometer change thousandths or ten thousandths is really cool! Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Tony, I feel so good for you!  You deserve every happiness. Sorry I’m late to the party here, but I’m here today :-) Deirdre

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Hi Tony, I’m not surprised at how well you’re doing as I’ve always believed in you. I understand about lunch break.. when I’m focused I don’t like to have a break as I want to finish what I’m trying to do. But I do have breaks but when they suit me ;) I think they will be happy if I just take the breaks, hopefully most of the time I can work them into my schedule. It’s better to be worried about a happy surprise rather than the other way around :) Yes I know, but I hate when I’m told I’m getting a surprise in the future, why do people do that?  Surprise me with the surprise, not a verbal possibility of one.  The worst part is that it may not even happen!  I’m simply too darn impatient!!!!!!! Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Hi Tony, I’m not surprised at how well you’re doing as I’ve always believed in you. I understand about lunch break.. when I’m focused I don’t like to have a break as I want to finish what I’m trying to do. But I do have breaks but when they suit me ;)

I think they will be happy if I just take the breaks, hopefully most of the time I can work them into my schedule. It’s better to be worried about a happy surprise rather than the other way around :)

Yes I know, but I hate when I’m told I’m getting a surprise in the future, why do people do that?  Surprise me with the surprise, not a verbal possibility of one.  The worst part is that it may not even happen!  I’m simply too darn impatient!!!!!!! Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony

Hi Tony, I’m not surprised at how well you’re doing as I’ve always believed in you. I understand about lunch break.. when I’m focused I don’t like to have a break as I want to finish what I’m trying to do. But I do have breaks but when they suit me ;) It’s better to be worried about a happy surprise rather than the other way around :) Vanessa — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  

        Bravo, Tony! Dennis — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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C*O*N*G*R*A*T*S, Tony! But…… I’m not the least bit surprised that you got such a glowing evaluation!!! :) ))) MikeH

Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles.

 . — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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C*O*N*G*R*A*T*S, Tony! But…… I’m not the least bit surprised that you got such a glowing evaluation!!! :) )))

Thanks Mike!  :-) Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.              Bravo, Tony! Dennis

Thanks Dennis!  :-) Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Tony, This is so great, I’m glad you got a good review. It’s a national law that you take your breaks and your lunch – Wal-Mart takes this so seriously that if you have worked six hours and have not taken a lunch yet, you can get fired. No kidding. Take the breaks. Take a full lunch. Relax and chill during that time, it will fortify you for the rest of your shift, plus eating helps. I do eat, it’s just that I only take a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break.   You could get your employer in trouble by not taking breaks and lunches, so take them and enjoy them and use them as a time to regroup. Even normies need that, how much more do we? Sally Absolutely correct about the breaks. If you were to run into trouble and it was discovered that you were not taking the prescribed breaks, the company could be in trouble for not "taking care" of you properly. This is all new to me.  In 30 years I never had a job where you had specified break times.  I’ve only had 4 full time jobs in all those years and 15 of those years I was working for myself. I’ll give this a try, but from past experience (at home) I imagine myself being more tired then ever after a break.  It’s like the difference between a truck gaining speed for the next hill and the truck that stops then starts again at the bottom of the hill.  It takes a lot to keep my momentum going. I’ll try to be the "Little Engine that Could" and say "I think I can, I think I can".  ;-) Tony

Tony, I think it’s the same for all states for hourly workers – you work 2 hours, you take a 15 minute break. If you are scheduled for 9 hours of work, you take an hour lunch – 8.5 hours, it’s half an hour, after 4 hours of work, and another 15 minute break 2 hours after lunch — not taking those breaks and full lunches may be why your supervisor remarked about you being tired. I handle cash, and if I don’t get my breaks, I can get kind of dumb about things, and messing up with cash isn’t allowed. So.. every 2 hours (or so) take a break or your lunch. Use it to hang out with the other employees and get to know them, or go to your car and be alone and breathe.. whatever you need. It’s your time. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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<gently snipped ::She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews ::also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of ::guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do ::something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would ::have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I Dear Tono, This is awesome news! I’m not surprised you are a hard worker and that everyone likes you :) This woman sounds like a real gem. I’m glad she’s in your corner. Jackie ~*~I have not ceased being fearful, but I have ceased to let fear control me… I have gone ahead despite the pounding in my heart that says:  turn back, turn back, you’ll die if you venture too far~*~ — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Tony, This is so great, I’m glad you got a good review. It’s a national law that you take your breaks and your lunch – Wal-Mart takes this so seriously that if you have worked six hours and have not taken a lunch yet, you can get fired. No kidding. Take the breaks. Take a full lunch. Relax and chill during that time, it will fortify you for the rest of your shift, plus eating helps. I do eat, it’s just that I only take a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break.  You could get your employer in trouble by not taking breaks and lunches, so take them and enjoy them and use them as a time to regroup. Even normies need that, how much more do we? Sally Absolutely correct about the breaks. If you were to run into trouble and it was discovered that you were not taking the prescribed breaks, the company could be in trouble for not "taking care" of you properly. This is all new to me.  In 30 years I never had a job where you had specified break times.  I’ve only had 4 full time jobs in all those years and 15 of those years I was working for myself. I’ll give this a try, but from past experience (at home) I imagine myself being more tired then ever after a break.  It’s like the difference between a truck gaining speed for the next hill and the truck that stops then starts again at the bottom of the hill.  It takes a lot to keep my momentum going. I’ll try to be the "Little Engine that Could" and say "I think I can, I think I can".  ;-) Tony

In construction type jobs that can be very dangerous, if it was found out that an injured employee was tired and missed breaks played a part in getting injured, the employer could have a lot to answer for.   It is the same thing with truckers driving past the allowed number of hours and then getting into an accident. — Ron P Member of the invisible generation — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Tony, This is so great, I’m glad you got a good review. It’s a national law that you take your breaks and your lunch – Wal-Mart takes this so seriously that if you have worked six hours and have not taken a lunch yet, you can get fired. No kidding. Take the breaks. Take a full lunch. Relax and chill during that time, it will fortify you for the rest of your shift, plus eating helps.

I do eat, it’s just that I only take a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break.   You could get your employer in trouble by not taking breaks and lunches, so take them and enjoy them and use them as a time to regroup. Even normies need that, how much more do we? Sally Absolutely correct about the breaks. If you were to run into trouble and it was discovered that you were not taking the prescribed breaks, the company could be in trouble for not "taking care" of you properly.

This is all new to me.  In 30 years I never had a job where you had specified break times.  I’ve only had 4 full time jobs in all those years and 15 of those years I was working for myself. I’ll give this a try, but from past experience (at home) I imagine myself being more tired then ever after a break.  It’s like the difference between a truck gaining speed for the next hill and the truck that stops then starts again at the bottom of the hill.  It takes a lot to keep my momentum going. I’ll try to be the "Little Engine that Could" and say "I think I can, I think I can".  ;-) Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony Tony, This is so great, I’m glad you got a good review. It’s a national law that you take your breaks and your lunch – Wal-Mart takes this so seriously that if you have worked six hours and have not taken a lunch yet, you can get fired. No kidding. Take the breaks. Take a full lunch. Relax and chill during that time, it will fortify you for the rest of your shift, plus eating helps. You could get your employer in trouble by not taking breaks and lunches, so take them and enjoy them and use them as a time to regroup. Even normies need that, how much more do we? Sally

Absolutely correct about the breaks. If you were to run into trouble and it was discovered that you were not taking the prescribed breaks, the company could be in trouble for not "taking care" of you properly. — Ron P Member of the invisible generation — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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This is great new, Tony!  I’m so proud of you.  You should be proud of yourself for doing this.  Keep up the good work.  Please let us know what special thing she does for you. Hugs, Di

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony

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Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Tennessee Tony schreef: She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony

Not too modest, Young Master Tony! All of us here would give you glowing reviews as well and we like you too. Why not enjoy to the full that people like you *and* rate you highly? About the *special* thingie: it sounds nice and flattering and still you manage to make it a *problem*…. Philip (humming "Always look at the bright side of life") — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I   feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will Tony

I think this is great news, Tony.  I’m so happy for you! kili — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I Tony

Tony, This is so great, I’m glad you got a good review. It’s a national law that you take your breaks and your lunch – Wal-Mart takes this so seriously that if you have worked six hours and have not taken a lunch yet, you can get fired. No kidding. Take the breaks. Take a full lunch. Relax and chill during that time, it will fortify you for the rest of your shift, plus eating helps. You could get your employer in trouble by not taking breaks and lunches, so take them and enjoy them and use them as a time to regroup. Even normies need that, how much more do we? Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi, Tono, Terrific news!!!  Taking a lunch break is good for you.  You need a little time away from the job to re-energize yourself. Big pat on the back to YOU… smiles, Elise

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation. After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel. I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Tennessee Tony schreef: She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything Tony Not too modest, Young Master Tony! All of us here would give you glowing reviews as well and we like you too. Why not enjoy to the full that people like you *and* rate you highly? About the *special* thingie: it sounds nice and flattering and still you manage to make it a *problem*….

LOL!  Just last week at my psychologist appointment I told her that I simply "repel people".  I swear if you could see my actual life you may not agree, but you would at least understand how and why I think these thoughts…. I think? Philip (humming "Always look at the bright side of life")

And me just being me skips to the end of the song….. ;-) For life is quite absurd, And death’s the final word. You must always face the curtain with a bow! Forget about your sin — give the audience a grin, Enjoy it – it’s the last chance anyhow! So always look on the bright side of death! Just before you draw your terminal breath. Life’s a piece of shit, When you look at it. Life’s a laugh and death’s a joke, it’s true, You’ll see it’s all a show, Keep ‘em laughing as you go. Just remember that the last laugh is on you! Ha ha!  The last laugh is on you!  Isn’t that the truth! Tony :-) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Thats great Tony. Maybe things are looking up for you. :) Mary

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today I finally got some information about my evaluation based on my work at Goodwill.  I’ve been going nuts waiting for this to be done, and was asking one woman there where the heck the woman is to do the evaluation.  After she realized just how much this was bothering me, she told me that the evaluation had already been done, (she did it without telling me) and I had to wait for my case worker to arrive to get the news.  So I was still on pins and needles. She finally arrived late in the afternoon, and talked to 2 other employees, saving me for last.  Well it was almost all very good.  She kept telling me that she brags about me all the time.  I guess some of it is telling other people in the same program (in another town) how well I do even with what I’m up against.  She must have told me ten times how she brags about me and uses me as an example!  She couldn’t tell me how much of a raise I would get, she has to do some paperwork on it and have it approved first and that should happen next week, but I won’t see it until the following pay period.  I’ll have a little lump sum since the raise is retroactive back to my first day there.  I’m pretty sure it will still be way below minimum wage since this is a "training program". The one thing she said I should do is to take a normal 30 minute lunch and my two 15 minute breaks.  I’ve been taking a 15 minute lunch and one 15 minute break so I would get an extra half hour in.  She knows just how tired I get and I mentioned the meds I’m on and exactly for what. So I suppose I’ll try the breaks and lunch next week and see how I feel.   I just think of it as having to spend an extra 30 minutes there to get the same amount of paid hours.  But maybe it will help, time will tell. She did question my quality of life (or lack thereof) with me being so tired.  She asked if maybe I’m over medicated?  I just might try lowering the Seroquel again and see what happens.  I’ll tell my Dr. first.  He goes along with almost anything I want to try and I’m sure he won’t have a problem with giving it a try just so I know to take more again if I’m having symptoms. She sort of said that all the regular employees gave me great reviews also, so that’s nice to know, although by their friendliness, I sort of guessed they liked me.  Then she mentioned that she is trying to do something special for me, but I have no idea what.  I suppose life would have been easier if she didn’t tell me yet since it may not happen.  I can’t think of anything that it could be?  Now that will bother Tony — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Nail Picking

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::I’m almost embarrassed to make this known but I was wondering if anyone ::else has this problem.  I’ve been picking my finger nails for the past ::two years.  I pick on one until it gets down to the point where it ::almost bleeds but doesn’t (just enough to feel some pain) and then I ::start on the next one.  You can imagine what my nails look like. :: ::I’ve suffered from all types of symptoms that accompany ::anxiety/panic/depression/SAD for which I have been receiving treatment ::since I was 16 (I won’t see 50 again).  Nail biting or picking was not ::something I have done in the past. :: ::Am I the only finger nail picker in the group?  Is that a symptom of ::OCD?  Any feedback is welcome. Dear Frizz, Don’t be embarrassed! This problem is a lot more common than you think. I have read that nail or skin picking is OC related, others say it is just a bad habit. They have given this kind of behavior a name, ‘Body-focused Repetitive Behaviors’. You may want to Google it. Some interesting links on nail picking and the likes. http://www.homestead.com/westsuffolkpsych/SkinPicking.html ~*~In most cases, stereotype unconscious behaviors are innocent and  rated as whims or bad habits. They are very common. I’m not aware of any scientific inquiry (see an actual internet opinion poll by surveycentral), but probably you will not find any single human being completely devoid of it. People are chewing their cheeks, biting their nails, scratching their heads, fumbling with their fingers, poking their ears, licking their lips, cracking their knuckles, bouncing their legs, tapping their feet, grinding their teeth.~*~ http://homepage.univie.ac.at/michael.berger/lit/compulsions.html If this behavior is causing a lot of anxiety, talk to your doctor about it. Jackie ~*~In the hour of adversity be not without hope. For crystal rain — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi all, Uh, yeah.  I do the same thing.  I dig my thumbs whenever I get antsy.  I can’t speak for everyone, but in my case it is very much nerves.  It is a habit that I have noticed anytime something goes wrong, like today when someone tried to break in. I wonder if it isn’t more common than we think?  I mean, some of us old timers might remember women in the movies biting their nails when they were scared or something.  Now, they never showed us guys doing it, but then we’re supposed to be ultra macho and stuff. :) If you can get by with it, finger cots or gloves work for me. :) Pax,

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, Frizz, I used to bite my nails so low, until they were very sore.  I think it was OCD/anxiety.  I don’t do this any more unless I get very anxious. smiles, Elise Hi folks: I’m almost embarrassed to make this known but I was wondering if anyone else has this problem.  I’ve been picking my finger nails for the past two years.  I pick on one until it gets down to the point where it almost bleeds but doesn’t (just enough to feel some pain) and then I start on the next one.  You can imagine what my nails look like. I’ve suffered from all types of symptoms that accompany anxiety/panic/depression/SAD for which I have been receiving treatment since I was 16 (I won’t see 50 again).  Nail biting or picking was not something I have done in the past. Am I the only finger nail picker in the group?  Is that a symptom of OCD?  Any feedback is welcome. Thanx -frizz — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi folks: I’m almost embarrassed to make this known but I was wondering if anyone else has this problem.  I’ve been picking my finger nails for the past two years.  I pick on one until it gets down to the point where it almost bleeds but doesn’t (just enough to feel some pain) and then I start on the next one.  You can imagine what my nails look like. I’ve suffered from all types of symptoms that accompany anxiety/panic/depression/SAD for which I have been receiving treatment since I was 16 (I won’t see 50 again).  Nail biting or picking was not something I have done in the past. Am I the only finger nail picker in the group?  Is that a symptom of OCD?  Any feedback is welcome. Thanx -frizz — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi folks: I’m almost embarrassed to make this known but I was wondering if anyone else has this problem.  I’ve been picking my finger nails for the past two years.  I pick on one until it gets down to the point where it almost bleeds but doesn’t (just enough to feel some pain) and then I start on the next one.  You can imagine what my nails look like. I’ve suffered from all types of symptoms that accompany anxiety/panic/depression/SAD for which I have been receiving treatment since I was 16 (I won’t see 50 again).  Nail biting or picking was not something I have done in the past. Am I the only finger nail picker in the group?  Is that a symptom of OCD?  Any feedback is welcome. Thanx -frizz

I don’t pick, but my husband and friend pick the skin by their cuticles. They pick until their fingers actually bleed.  You look at their hands and see little scabs from the cuticles down to their first knuckle.  I always thought it was nerves, but it could be due to OCD, I guess. kili — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi, Frizz, I used to bite my nails so low, until they were very sore.  I think it was OCD/anxiety.  I don’t do this any more unless I get very anxious. smiles, Elise

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi folks: I’m almost embarrassed to make this known but I was wondering if anyone else has this problem.  I’ve been picking my finger nails for the past two years.  I pick on one until it gets down to the point where it almost bleeds but doesn’t (just enough to feel some pain) and then I start on the next one.  You can imagine what my nails look like. I’ve suffered from all types of symptoms that accompany anxiety/panic/depression/SAD for which I have been receiving treatment since I was 16 (I won’t see 50 again).  Nail biting or picking was not something I have done in the past. Am I the only finger nail picker in the group?  Is that a symptom of OCD?  Any feedback is welcome. Thanx -frizz — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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I used to be the ultimate/eternal optimist, but am a mess now & starting to lose that hope/feeling

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – <snipped did anyone say those magic words ? …. ‘ Useless Turd ‘ OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase. Er, why would MonkeyBoy have a wet noodle? [Nancy again ponders the possibilities.] Spend some time at the monkey cage at the zoo during mating season. Are you suggesting that they use wet noodles when they’re mating?! I must’ve zoned out when that part of the mating ritual was described in all those nature programs on TV that I’ve watched over the years. Must’ve missed it in all the reading I’ve done, too. Odd where these gaps in my education lie. So, tell me more. Do the monkeys use Italian noodles, Oriental noodles, Eastern European noodles, or some more exotic variety? And does the type of noodle used vary with species?

http://www.hormel.com/templates/knowledge/knowledge.asp?id=171&catite… Manufacturer of noodle equipment… http://www.pavan.com/ Interesting technical article about types of noodles ..    http://secure.aibonline.org/catalog/example/V20Iss12.pdf Asian Noodle Technology Short Course September 11-13, 2006 January 8-10, 2007 Winnipeg, Manitoba   http://www.cigi.ca/pdfs/Asian_Noodle_Short_Course.pdf ‘… Despite experiencing unparalleled growth in sales up until the middle of 2004 the noodle market is expected to decline by 5.4% in 2005. This is largely due to the growing perception among many consumers that instant noodle snacks and instant savory noodles are relatively unhealthy. On the bright side, speed and convenience are of paramount importance when cooking and for this reason noodles still have considerable growth potential. There are opportunities particularly within the traditional noodles sector for alternatives such as rice noodles. Straight To Wok noodles also have experienced success and this fairly recent variety has considerable growth potential as a convenient yet healthy carbohydrate base for a meal.  …’ http://reports.mintel.com/sinatra/reports/index/&letter=14/display/id… Cordially, RL

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<snipped did anyone say those magic words ? ….  ’ Useless Turd ‘ OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase.

Er, why would MonkeyBoy have a wet noodle? [Nancy again ponders the possibilities.] Nancy Unique, like everyone else

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – <snipped did anyone say those magic words ? ….  ’ Useless Turd ‘ OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase. Er, why would MonkeyBoy have a wet noodle? [Nancy again ponders the possibilities.]

Spend some time at the monkey cage at the zoo during mating season. — –John to email, dial "usenet" and validate (was jclarke at eye bee em dot net)

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – <snipped did anyone say those magic words ? …. ‘ Useless Turd ‘ OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase. Er, why would MonkeyBoy have a wet noodle? [Nancy again ponders the possibilities.] Spend some time at the monkey cage at the zoo during mating season.

Are you suggesting that they use wet noodles when they’re mating?! I must’ve zoned out when that part of the mating ritual was described in all those nature programs on TV that I’ve watched over the years. Must’ve missed it in all the reading I’ve done, too. Odd where these gaps in my education lie. So, tell me more. Do the monkeys use Italian noodles, Oriental noodles, Eastern European noodles, or some more exotic variety? And does the type of noodle used vary with species? Nancy Unique, like everyone else

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Am worried I’ll never be able to CONSISTENTLY find and keep success in my career, with friends, with boyfriends, etc. ADD is the number-one cause for my current unemployment and lack of friends. I’ve matured a lot, but I took a job that was too senior for my experience–even though they hired me for it, knowing this. Anyhow, my ADD impulsivity created problems interacting w/people and keeping friends. I can make them easily, but it is keeping them that is the hard part. This is the 4th job I’ve had in 4 years. I was fired from the second and third, and this one was a firing for poor performance (even though I was hired with all the right credentials and was excellent at the main function, I lacked the industry knowledge the job called for. I can accept responsibility for myself just fine, but I didn’t change from what they hired me as–the job requirements did, but b/c these people were macho jackasses, they put it on me. So, b/c of poor planning on their part, they realized 6 months into my job that they needed someone with more experience–even though they knew up front that I had only 1.5 years, not the 5 or more they ended up needing.) I’m also impulsive. I get hung up on and fixated on individual guys and e-mail them incessantly, annoying and turning them off, b/c I’m so impulsive, I don’t stop and think about what I’m doing–and I’m needy, with low self-esteem. According to a lot of people, they think I’m extremely pretty, skinny, perfect body, funny, loyal, incredibly intelligent. But my ADD and OCD/anxiety antics drive people away–and have done so for YEARS. So, I’ve ended up with: –no job –no friends –never having had a serious boyfriend–I’m in my early/mid 20s. Part of this is due to the no friends, and therefore, not having opportunities to meet guys, and the other part is that I devote myself to whoever my latest crush is. I believe in myself, that I deserve to have a great job–I lost 2 of my 4 jobs for performance reasons, b/c I was so disgusted and felt the jobs were beneath me–which they definitely were. The first firing came the day before I handed in my typed resignation letter, b/c I hated it so much. The good thing is that I could collect unemployment, which if I’d quit, I wouldn’t have been able to do. I’m just starting to lose the faith I’ve always had in myself, the eternal optimism that is my trademark–hey, you have to have hope when your ADD has caused you to succeed and fail at equal levels your whole life. Getting 99th percentile scores on achievement tests and then failing classes b/c I wasn’t challenged and was bored out of my mind. Does anyone with ADD (and anxiety/OCD) ever maintain success once they’ve found it? Can ADDers live in the real world and be normal? I worry I’ll never make friends or have a boyfriend. Or be truly happy–something that has eluded me for years.

did anyone say those magic words ? ….   ‘ Useless Turd ‘ ( Inside ASAD  joke – grimace – one sided debate [ RL versus ASAD ] … sorry.  Not part of the ADD – OCD thingy ) Cordially, RL

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<snipped did anyone say those magic words ? ….   ‘ Useless Turd ‘

OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase. Kitten

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<snipped did anyone say those magic words ? ….   ‘ Useless Turd ‘ OK, NOW I know why we need a MonkeyBoy.  It’ll be his job to give you 30 lashes with a wet noodle every time you use that phrase.

Psst. Notice the signature block  ~~~ ‘ Sarcasm is my sword, Apathy is my shield. ‘   Uhm … Did anyone say,  ’ Useless Turd ‘ ?   see http://groups.google.com/group/alt.astronomy/msg/d9d4b0ab13fec813 seconds) ‘ Vanilla Gorilla (Monkey Boy) — V.G. Change pobox dot alaska to gci. Sarcasm is my sword, Apathy is my shield.

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freak of nature

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they called me a ticking time bomb.  they called me a freak.  this might be true. i’m not sure if i’m schizophrenic, or depressed, or anxious, or avoidant personality.  i am certainly OCD.   i count things constantly. it’s hard getting dates sometimes.  i think i’m a freak of nature. Ian might think i’m a freak too.  i smoke Prince Albert in a cob.  i do like GLP though. take care, Gravity — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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i am certainly OCD.   i count things constantly. i think i’m a freak of nature.

Hi Gravity, I’m a counter too, but more of a checker.  : )  The Zoloft has cooled me down a bit. I no longer count stuff nor check stuff anymore. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – they called me a ticking time bomb.  they called me a freak.  this might be true. i’m not sure if i’m schizophrenic, or depressed, or anxious, or avoidant personality.  i am certainly OCD.   i count things constantly. it’s hard getting dates sometimes.  i think i’m a freak of nature. Ian might think i’m a freak too.  i smoke Prince Albert in a cob.  i do like GLP though. take care, Gravity

Hi Gravity, who are "they"?   someone worth listening to?   whose opinion actually means something to you? I, once had someone tell me, that they’ve never heard anyone who thinks and talks as fast as I do, having grown up in  NYork metropolitan area, I knew there was a whole bunch of people who spoke as fast – if not faster than I did.     The person saying it had grown up in the Midwest and as much as I respected most of his opinions, this one seemed out of sorts to me. With all the different psychprofessionals, I’ve encountered, socially or as a client, I chose to believe that they go by what is presented, their knowledge or experiences and I find a definite leaning towards their particular expertise area as far as diagnosing goes. After all these years, I’m partial to believing we are all just individuals.  Like snowflakes, no two people alike and I’m working towards acceptance for those differences in others and for myself. Narieka  (new person on the group) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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they called me a ticking time bomb.  they called me a freak.  this might be true. i’m not sure if i’m schizophrenic, or depressed, or anxious, or avoidant personality.  i am certainly OCD.   i count things constantly. it’s hard getting dates sometimes.  i think i’m a freak of nature. Ian might think i’m a freak too.  i smoke Prince Albert in a cob.  i do like GLP though. take care,

hi Gravity, we are all unique and special in our own way. what is normal anyway? Vanessa :) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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OS/2 word processor: Describe

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crack who likes rageful munchkin punchin’ with tree mouses, and whose partner is a crack saleslady with an enormous baloney sandwich, wrote in queen who likes lascivious jerk off time trials with corn snakes, and whose partner is a scarlet-woman with a cavernous fish factory, BOO! Can you picture being legally married to her?

Scary.

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cake-eater who likes animalistic butt bashing with electric eels, and whose partner is a merry-legs with a dirty yoni, wrote in – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – creamy crack who likes rageful munchkin punchin’ with tree mouses, and whose partner is a crack saleslady with an enormous baloney African queen who likes lascivious jerk off time trials with corn snakes, and whose partner is a scarlet-woman with a cavernous fish factory, wrote in BOO! Can you picture being legally married to her? Scary. It’s circumstances like that that caused the creation of alt.suicide.holiday.

That I can believe.

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fruit who likes repulsive butt snorting with badgers, and whose partner is a garden-tool-mama with a malignant sweet spot, wrote in – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – cake-eater who likes animalistic butt bashing with electric eels, and whose partner is a merry-legs with a dirty yoni, wrote in creamy crack who likes rageful munchkin punchin’ with tree mouses, and whose partner is a crack saleslady with an enormous baloney African queen who likes lascivious jerk off time trials with corn snakes, and whose partner is a scarlet-woman with a cavernous fish factory, wrote in BOO! Can you picture being legally married to her? Scary. It’s circumstances like that that caused the creation of alt.suicide.holiday. That I can believe. It could be worse.  In states, such as Utah, it might be possible to be married to both of them.

It’s nothing a mastectomy won’t fix.

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bag man and tempest-swept shit shover who likes kinky vinegar stroking with batfish, and whose partner is a bar-girl with a dripping cockpit, – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Kadaitcha Man whined: fruit who likes repulsive butt snorting with badgers, and whose partner is a garden-tool-mama with a malignant sweet spot, wrote in cake-eater who likes animalistic butt bashing with electric eels, and whose partner is a merry-legs with a dirty yoni, wrote in creamy crack who likes rageful munchkin punchin’ with tree mouses, and whose partner is a crack saleslady with an enormous baloney sandwich, wrote in African queen who likes lascivious jerk off time trials with corn snakes, and whose partner is a scarlet-woman with a cavernous fish factory, wrote in BOO! Can you picture being legally married to her? Scary. It’s circumstances like that that caused the creation of alt.suicide.holiday. That I can believe. It could be worse.  In states, such as Utah, it might be possible to be married to both of them. It’s nothing a mastectomy won’t fix. All though a lobotomy worked well in your case ;)

Wow! A rebound lame by proxy. You win a kewpie doll.

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hesexual who likes untamed knee benders with macaws, and whose partner is a sporting-girl with a tight cucumber canal, wrote in – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – lustful third-sexer who likes sickening leg-overs with lizards, and whose partner is a fleabag with a grisly koo koo, wrote in panhandler and mature bone smuggler who likes lewd rump riding with capuchin monkeys, and whose partner is a loose-gowned woman with a ghoulish peter’s punching bag, wrote in As for the attribution issue, it would seem that Indomitab… in http://tinyurl.com/guzfl claims that a certain ‘ Rick Mather ‘ character is Kadaitcha Man. I hope the bitch doesn’t see my home address from that link. Your new home or the mail drop? Actually, she had better hope I’m not the person she named… Pussie. … Nothing but a Wizard of Oz, ‘Smoke & Thunder’, trick.  … Not a malicious bone in that broken down body of yours, eh?

Read it again. Maybe you should try a dash of comprehension instead of just reading this time, hmmm? Frankly, if I were " her

It can be arranged. "ATM,  Rick Mather aka Kadaitcha man is assisting members of the SPP Stalking Rings effort to manufacture the perception that Kadaitcha man is authoring post impostering/frogging me as part of the cyberterrorism which sociopathic pals of baby rapists have been engaging in against me since 2000. WRT Rick Mather aka KM’s goal—-it’s highly likely his goal is the same as all psychopathis is—-to make the world a safe place for psychopaths to rape women and babies,  defraud,  stalk and/or kill OP….etc." Admittedly, a bit relentless, no?

<shrug    Linda had a good teacher, no?   … You and all your protogee’s. But psychopath   … Isn’t that a wee bit harsh? Like is "this" you … psy

avoidance avoid……

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Can OCD cause all sorts of Phobias, because a person can feel if they try something it can’t possibly come out right?  - uncertainty – I might be afraid to get in my car because I feel it won’t start or will break down. The mechanic tells me it runs fine, but I just FEEL it will break down, so I don’t want to drive it and get trouble. I might be afraid to check my balance in an account because I am afraid the balance will be too small even though I am the only one on the account and I didn’t write any checks or use the debit card. I know logically it’s not true but I feel it is true, and ask someone else to check it for me. I might be afraid to find a new location because I feel I will have to get lost, even though I in fact rarely get lost. I might be afraid to buy something because all the details in the store are new to me and confuse me, and the store frightens me as a result. My family reassures me that anyone is confused with something new and cannot get it all right with no experience, and that what I am buying is not expensive and there is little to fear.   I still feel I cannot approach buying it.  I use old things or do without instead of buying new ones.  I do not refer to major purchases, but small things like buying a radio under $100 or a shopping cart or a cheat voice recorded under $100 but I cannot approach it so my wife buys it for me.

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Hi there…. I know that for me, obsessive tendencies cause all sorts of anxiety….and in a couple of cases, have caused actual phobias, I think. This was a big one for me, and I’m getting better with it: I am always afraid of losing control away from my home, away from my safe place. This causes all sorts of dilemnas for me. One thing that I became obsessive about was keeping my car full of gas, so that I’d never run out and have to get help from someone (which to me, spells being out of control) It’s a good thing to keep gas in your car, but it’s getting a little bit unhealthy when you’ve only driven 5 miles and are putting 37 cents worth of gas in it, which is absurd. But a few years back that’s where I was with this particular obsession. It’s a huge effort for me to not put gas in my car when I’ve driven somewhere, but I’ve made myself do this, so that now I can almost have the tank 1/2 empty before I put gas into it. You know, thinking about this now, it seems that a lot of my phobias have this obsessive element to them, and the obsession usually stems from my basic fears, that of being trapped in a situation or of losing control of myself, of my mind. You said, "I might be afraid to find a new location because I feel I will have to get lost, even though I in fact rarely get lost." The thing about obsessions and phobias is that we can know that they are irrational, but that doesn’t make them go away, until we start truly believing, knowing, that they are irrational. This is cognitive therapy, an example of it. The behavioral part of this therapy is when we start to put into practice what we have learned. For example, for me, that means not putting gas into my car when I’ve only driven 30 miles.

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OT: *Bonus* Question of the day…. 2/25/06

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2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you?

Yes. Also had the experience of forgetting to check whether restaurant took credit cards. Meryl — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with

you? No Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you?

No, but I did order a beer and as the bartender came over with it I was saying "oh shit".  He gave me a funny look and said "Don’t tell me, you forgot your wallet"?  As if I planned it.  The one other person in the bar, who I had never seen before and wasn’t even from the area, said he would buy me a beer. Tono — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – 2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you? Jackie ~*~It’s the crazy ones that have all the good pills~*~   ~~Kim Cattrall No but I had a bad experience sort of like that that traumatized me for years, like decades.  I was about 11 and my dad and I went to a newsstand.  He got his stuff, and was ready to leave. I went to check out, and didn’t have enough money to buy the magazines I wanted.  I told the clerk, "Well, just put this one back."  She acted very snotty (I was just a kid!) and she said "There are NO returns! — Wait over THERE!"  Scared the hell out of me.  I didn’t even know what a "return" WAS at that age. I just felt like I had done something very bad and illegal, and I was in trouble.  Luckily, my dad saw that something was going on, and he came over and paid whatever I owed. For years and years, and even sometimes today..when I go to a check out, I count my money if I am paying cash before I check out.  I know it won’t be a catastrophe if I dont have the money, but I still always check first.  That cashier doesn’t know what she did to me, or what I let her do to me over the years.  I’m glad I have my debit card.  It saves me that worry. Sally

That was a nasty thing for her to do to an 11 year old, Sally.  So glad your Dad was there to help pay.  {{{{{Sally}}}}} Love, Di — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Wow Jim!  What a good story.  I mean, not good, but…can’t think of the right word to say.  I’m glad people were trying to help you, but it was probably embarrassing because of your age.  If it happened now, you might not be so embarrassed.  :-) Hugs, Di If it happened now there would be one of two outcomes. 1.  I would have plastic to cover the expense. 2.  My wife would kick me in the head. Jim

LOL  Awww, I don’t think she would really kick you.  She might smack you though.  :-) Di — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you?

Me? With OCD? I check my wallet several times daily to make sure everything is there–credit cards, cash (counted several times), and motor club card, license, etc. And, of course, all the cards have to be arranged in an orderly fashion–credit cards and debit cards on one side of my wallet, dollar bills perfectly aligned and in order (ones grouped together; fives grouped together, etc.); not too many coins, and supermarket savings cards and library cards on the other side of the wallet. So, no, I have never had the experience of realizing I had no money at a restaurant to pay for my food.  ; ) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) This happened to me when I was 16.  I grew up in a nice neighborhood and   there were a lot of rich kids at my school.  I was dating this girl whose parents were pretty well-off.  I decided to take here out for Valentines day to some *really* expensive restaurant.  The restaurant was in PA, I think it was on River Road on the way to New Hope NJ. We get to the (small) restaurant and just about every table is filled with a bunch of *rich* yuppie couples.  I had on my tuxedo and my girlfriend had on a very pretty dress, so I guess we fit in.  We got a bunch of "aww, what cute kids" looks.  We are seated and handed "THE" menu.  I call it "THE" menu because it was a planned 7 or 8 course meal, you ate what the chef was preparing, there was no ordering, oh and there were no prices on the menu.  I asked our waiter where were the prices and he said they don’t have prices at this restaurant.  People just pay the bill. Previous to this date, I had saved up about $110 from work.  This is back around 1988/1989 so I thought I had more than enough for a really nice diner for my girlfriend and myself. We eat and have a good time.  Most of the food was actually good, though there were a few weird chef-type dishes that I didn’t care for at 17. After the meal my girlfriend gets up and goes to the bathroom and the waiter hands me the bill.  I didn’t have anxiety/PA back then but I think I had one or something like it when I saw the bill.  Just the bill, with no tip of 20% was $180!  Remember I had a grand total of $110.  My girlfriend gets back and I break the news to her.  I told her to go out and start the car and I was going to leave the $110 and make a run for it.  She talks me out of that and plan and decides to take my car, while I stay there, to go back to her parents and get the $70 plus about $40 for a tip. Did I mention that this was a small, chef-owned restaurant?  It had seating for about 12-15 couples.  We were *all* in one room.  After sitting alone for 20 minutes I think I was the topic of conversation for all the other couples.  The man from a couple near us leaned over and said he was sorry that my girlfriend left and gave me a little advice on "how to win her back".  I smiled and explained to him what happened and he laughs and basically announces to the whole room what happened. At this point every guy in the room is whipping out their wallet offering to pay the difference.  The guy next to me hands me a crisps $100 like it was a $1 bill.  I think I had brass-ones back then because I told him I needed a tip too and he then handed me a $50. I paid the waiter, thanked everyone and went outside to wait.  A few minutes later my girlfriend comes back, not in my car, but in her mom’s car with her mom driving and her dad in the passenger seat.  I wanted to just run across the street to the Delaware River and jump in ;) I told my girlfriend, her mom and dad how everyone offered to pay.  My girlfriends father gave me $150 and made me go back in and give the money back to the guy.  So I go back in and give the guy back his money, say thanks again to everyone and get out of there with what little dignity I have left ;)

That’s a good story, Jim  ;) Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you? Jackie ~*~It’s the crazy ones that have all the good pills~*~   ~~Kim Cattrall

No but I had a bad experience sort of like that that traumatized me for years, like decades.  I was about 11 and my dad and I went to a newsstand.  He got his stuff, and was ready to leave. I went to check out, and didn’t have enough money to buy the magazines I wanted.  I told the clerk, "Well, just put this one back."  She acted very snotty (I was just a kid!) and she said "There are NO returns! — Wait over THERE!"  Scared the hell out of me.  I didn’t even know what a "return" WAS at that age. I just felt like I had done something very bad and illegal, and I was in trouble.  Luckily, my dad saw that something was going on, and he came over and paid whatever I owed. For years and years, and even sometimes today..when I go to a check out, I count my money if I am paying cash before I check out.  I know it won’t be a catastrophe if I dont have the money, but I still always check first.  That cashier doesn’t know what she did to me, or what I let her do to me over the years.  I’m glad I have my debit card.  It saves me that worry. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Fortunately, no. smiles, Elise

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– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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2/25/06: Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) Have you ever eaten in a restaurant and realized you have no money with you?

Luckily no. — Ron P I’m an EXPERT….a has-been under pressure<;-) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Wow Jim!  What a good story.  I mean, not good, but…can’t think of the right word to say.  I’m glad people were trying to help you, but it was probably embarrassing because of your age.  If it happened now, you might not be so embarrassed.  :-) Hugs, Di

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Todays question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s :) This happened to me when I was 16.  I grew up in a nice neighborhood and   there were a lot of rich kids at my school.  I was dating this girl whose parents were pretty well-off.  I decided to take here out for Valentines day to some *really* expensive restaurant.  The restaurant was in PA, I think it was on River Road on the way to New Hope NJ. We get to the (small) restaurant and just about every table is filled with a bunch of *rich* yuppie couples.  I had on my tuxedo and my girlfriend had on a very pretty dress, so I guess we fit in.  We got a bunch of "aww, what cute kids" looks.  We are seated and handed "THE" menu.  I call it "THE" menu because it was a planned 7 or 8 course meal, you ate what the chef was preparing, there was no ordering, oh and there were no prices on the menu.  I asked our waiter where were the prices and he said they don’t have prices at this restaurant.  People just pay the bill. Previous to this date, I had saved up about $110 from work.  This is back around 1988/1989 so I thought I had more than enough for a really nice diner for my girlfriend and myself. We eat and have a good time.  Most of the food was actually good, though there were a few weird chef-type dishes that I didn’t care for at 17. After the meal my girlfriend gets up and goes to the bathroom and the waiter hands me the bill.  I didn’t have anxiety/PA back then but I think I had one or something like it when I saw the bill.  Just the bill, with no tip of 20% was $180!  Remember I had a grand total of $110.  My girlfriend gets back and I break the news to her.  I told her to go out and start the car and I was going to leave the $110 and make a run for it.  She talks me out of that and plan and decides to take my car, while I stay there, to go back to her parents and get the $70 plus about $40 for a tip. Did I mention that this was a small, chef-owned restaurant?  It had seating for about 12-15 couples.  We were *all* in one room.  After sitting alone for 20 minutes I think I was the topic of conversation for all the other couples.  The man from a couple near us leaned over and said he was sorry that my girlfriend left and gave me a little advice on "how to win her back".  I smiled and explained to him what happened and he laughs and basically announces to the whole room what happened. At this point every guy in the room is whipping out their wallet offering to pay the difference.  The guy next to me hands me a crisps $100 like it was a $1 bill.  I think I had brass-ones back then because I told him I needed a tip too and he then handed me a $50. I paid the waiter, thanked everyone and went outside to wait.  A few minutes later my girlfriend comes back, not in my car, but in her mom’s car with her mom driving and her dad in the passenger seat.  I wanted to just run across the street to the Delaware River and jump in ;) I told my girlfriend, her mom and dad how everyone offered to pay.  My girlfriends father gave me $150 and made me go back in and give the money back to the guy.  So I go back in and give the guy back his money, say thanks again to everyone and get out of there with what little dignity I have left ;) I am now emotionally scared toward Valentines Day :) Jim

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Aviaphobia

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All of the above, though I do believe that my fear of being out of control is the greatest of all.  Claustrophobia is pretty bad, too.  Thanks!

Have you ever flown? Or been inside of a modern jet airplane? Or do you fear what you *imagine* it would be like? Modern jets have these fantastic air flow jets that you can use to blow cool air directly on yourself; I find it a great way to eliminate that feeling of claustrophobia. Exposure therapy is the most reasonable/effective by far of the options available. http://panicdisorder.about.com/od/flyingselfhelp/ includes a link to a free self-help program as well as some other info.  Can’t hurt. Also, call your local airport(s) to see whether they have programs or can direct you to those airlines that still have programs to address aviaphobia.

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For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. I also have a bag with goodies such as hand creams, rosewater sprays. Magazines, books, neck pillow. Telling attendants. I find they can be very careful. Watching attendants if something makes you feel nervous. I figure if there was a significant problem I would be able to tell by their reaction. Focus on destination.

All good sugggestions. If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve <g.

Rumor has it that some people can live on sawdust.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. A lot depends on what *exactly* a person is phobic about. Some fear the plane crashing; others fear the claustrophobic environment; still others fear heights and so in an airplane as long as they don’t look down a window they may be okay, etc. I don’t have aviaphobia nor fear of heights. HOWEVER, I fear that some drugs or something bad will be found in my luggage, coming from nowhere. That’s an obsessive fear coming from my OCD. Not a big one to stop me, but the thought is present. Meryl, your case sound more like claustrophobia. Just wondering….

Mine came about after I developed panic disorder with mild agoraphobia. I had a fear of heights prior to this but flew OK. So I guess I feared the plane crashing, claustrophobia, heights and having a panic attack. Nowhere to go. I now fly OK. Meryl

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"If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve" Correction Meryl:  If flying on an American airline take food or you WILL starve. G

LOL and do not assume that your gate for your next flight will be near an open coffee shop at LAX. The fact that you have just flown for 14 hours is of no consequence. M

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My dosage would not apply to you. I take 5 x 1 mg on a daily basis. Meryl – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thanks, Meryl!  I do have a prescription for Xanax, though it is really only a "security blanket" in that I carry it to feel safe.  I have only had to take it twice in the 6 years I have had the prescription.  How much do you take? For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. I also have a bag with goodies such as hand creams, rosewater sprays. Magazines, books, neck pillow. Telling attendants. I find they can be very careful. Watching attendants if something makes you feel nervous. I figure if there was a significant problem I would be able to tell by their reaction. Focus on destination. If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve <g. Meryl I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?  I have tried so many different things that I just don’t want to spend the money (and time) again unless I have some hope that it will work!  I sometimes feel guilty, too, participating in anxiety forums because my problem sounds so trivial compared to the great burdens some of the participants carry.  However, it is ruining my life, not to mention my husband’s life!  He is the most patient man in the world, but we are now getting to the point in life where travel is a real possibility, and I can’t even think about it.  If anyone out there has any suggestions, please give them to me!  Our oldest son is graduating college and looking for employment all over the country.  It is my dream to be able to visit him!  Thanks!

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I had a terrible fear of flying!  I am terrified of heights….. and didn’t think I would be able to stand being so high up.  And I had this obsessive thought that I might somehow *freak out* and jump out of the plane!  For years, people told me it was easier than I thought…. I’m sure you have heard all the same things.  "Just like sitting in your own living room." At age 39, I attended a weekend flight-fear clinic sponsored in conjunction with American Airlines at that time.  It was held in Raleigh, NC.  There were 21 people in the group.  The group sessions were led by psychologists, pilots, flight attendants.  We sat in a stationary plane to see what it was like inside.  We walked beneath the belly of the plane and the pilots explained what all the things were that moved and would make noise.  We got lots and lots of information about the odds of anything going wrong.  You stand a better chance of dying from being kicked in the head by a mule than of crashing in a plane.  In mid-afternoon on Sunday we took a *graduation flight*.  Of the 21 in the group, 18 took the flight.  We flew on a regularly scheduled 727…. we all sat in one section of the plane… and we were surrounded by all those people in our group who had worked with us. The flight lasted 45 minutes.  Then we flew back…. That was in October. The following February, my wife and I flew from Savannah, GA, to Raleigh… for a weekend.  The following summer I joined my wife and kids for a trip to France….. my first…. and met my wife’s family after 17 years of marriage! ;) Talk about an event! Wow!  Since then I have flown across the Atlantic many times….. and have had the chance to travel to a few other places in the U.S.  Yes, I use Xanax to help me keep calm.  But you know what?  It really is *just like sitting in your living room*…. except for the leg room. ;) I love sitting by the window.  As much as I *hate* high buildings…. and stay away from the edges…. I have no problem at all sitting in a plane at 36000 feet and looking out at the marvel below.  Clouds from above are beautiful.  I feel *safe* up there. Things I can suggest to help: 1.  Tell the flight attendants you are nervous…. they can be very helpful. 2.  Take along a CD player with music you like to listen to. 3.  Take along things to distract you like crossword puzzles…. I take a Gameboy with me and love to play Tetris! ;) 4.  Take some Xanax to help calm you. 5.  Have some magazines or light reading with you. 6.  For your first flight, request seats over the wing, as the ride there may be smoother. 7.  Read up on statistics about the safety of airline travel. 8.  Practice relaxation techniques…. deep breathing…. everyday…. so that they become second nature and you can use them to help you. 9.  Realize that the actual situation is not going to be nearly as bad as you have imagined it to be. 10.  Think of your destination and all the fun you will have when you get there. 11.  Watch the other passengers as they board the plane….. the older people…. the young families with children/babies… the business people… Where is each going?  Where are they coming from? 12.  Remember that your pilots have families…. and they want to return home safely to them! If you have any questions at all, please feel free to ask.  I can tell you this much….. if *I* can fly…. *YOU* can, too!  I once thought that I would NEVER set foot on a plane.  But it IS possible! Oh….. and as for me going berserk and jumping out of the plane… I learned that the doors on the plan are actually sealed outward…. and as long as the plane is pressurized, they can’t be opened! Pmail me if you’d like!  I don’t know of any current flight fear clinics… but I’m sure there must be some around! Take care…. MikeH

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?  I have tried so many different things that I just don’t want to spend the money (and time) again unless I have some hope that it will work!  I sometimes feel guilty, too, participating in anxiety forums because my problem sounds so trivial compared to the great burdens some of the participants carry.  However, it is ruining my life, not to mention my husband’s life!  He is the most patient man in the world, but we are now getting to the point in life where travel is a real possibility, and I can’t even think about it.  If anyone out there has any suggestions, please give them to me!  Our oldest son is graduating college and looking for employment all over the country.  It is my dream to be able to visit him!  Thanks!

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All of the above, though I do believe that my fear of being out of control is the greatest of all.  Claustrophobia is pretty bad, too.  Thanks!

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. A lot depends on what *exactly* a person is phobic about. Some fear the plane crashing; others fear the claustrophobic environment; still others fear heights and so in an airplane as long as they don’t look down a window they may be okay, etc. I don’t have aviaphobia nor fear of heights. HOWEVER, I fear that some drugs or something bad will be found in my luggage, coming from nowhere. That’s an obsessive fear coming from my OCD. Not a big one to stop me, but the thought is present. Meryl, your case sound more like claustrophobia. Just wondering….

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I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?  I have tried so many different things that I just don’t want to spend the money (and time) again unless I have some hope that it will work!  I sometimes feel guilty, too, participating in anxiety forums because my problem sounds so trivial compared to the great burdens some of the participants carry.  However, it is ruining my life, not to mention my husband’s life!  He is the most patient man in the world, but we are now getting to the point in life where travel is a real possibility, and I can’t even think about it.  If anyone out there has any suggestions, please give them to me!  Our oldest son is graduating college and looking for employment all over the country.  It is my dream to be able to visit him!  Thanks!

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I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?

There are many ways to deal with this. 1. Just go through it and desensitize yourself to the experience if the phobia is minor/moderate. 2. Playing music tapes during the flight to distract yourself, especially if the flight is short. 3. A short-term, low-dose anti-anxiety med, like Ativan or Xanax, if a doctor prescribes it. I don’t know what else. I believe John Madden has the same phobia and travels on trains only. That may be another option. Personally, I would just take a .5 of Klonopin as it alone would take care of symptoms. The thoughts, however, will not be erased by an anti-anxiety med. Only desensitization will eventually erase the connection between flying and fear.

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I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?

Don’t fly. The nasty treatment at the airport can be far worse than the actually flight itself. If you can handle the airport you can handle the flight.

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For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. I also have a bag with goodies such as hand creams, rosewater sprays. Magazines, books, neck pillow. Telling attendants. I find they can be very careful. Watching attendants if something makes you feel nervous. I figure if there was a significant problem I would be able to tell by their reaction. Focus on destination. If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve <g. Meryl – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?  I have tried so many different things that I just don’t want to spend the money (and time) again unless I have some hope that it will work!  I sometimes feel guilty, too, participating in anxiety forums because my problem sounds so trivial compared to the great burdens some of the participants carry.  However, it is ruining my life, not to mention my husband’s life!  He is the most patient man in the world, but we are now getting to the point in life where travel is a real possibility, and I can’t even think about it.  If anyone out there has any suggestions, please give them to me!  Our oldest son is graduating college and looking for employment all over the country.  It is my dream to be able to visit him!  Thanks!

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For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water.

A lot depends on what *exactly* a person is phobic about. Some fear the plane crashing; others fear the claustrophobic environment; still others fear heights and so in an airplane as long as they don’t look down a window they may be okay, etc. I don’t have aviaphobia nor fear of heights. HOWEVER, I fear that some drugs or something bad will be found in my luggage, coming from nowhere. That’s an obsessive fear coming from my OCD. Not a big one to stop me, but the thought is present. Meryl, your case sound more like claustrophobia. Just wondering….

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I really don’t know , – I wish I did. I have flown on occassion when I was in the service but never liked it even then and I was much tougher then too. Some people just have a inborn instinct for heights I suppose, Stalin "the iorn man" never flew because of fear of heights. As for my self, the main thought is that I may go "crazy" and proceed to kick the damn plane apart, – and that wouldn’t be appreciated my the others on the plane. I would think that a medical doctor could prescribe enough medication to cause the person to be able to fly. Others here should know more about this. – K

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"The nasty treatment at the airport can be far worse than the actually flight itself.  If you can handle the airport you can handle the flight." That is the first thing that Dan (but not THAT dan) has ever said that I agree with. Re flying.  Just get a Valium prescription, take a good SSRI like Celexa in low doses for a month or two beforehand, and be working on this problem with a shrink.  Yes, desensitization does work very well, for the people who it works for.  5 mgs of Valium works in 30 minutes after you take it.  Get brand name version only.  You must get a legitimate examination and prescription for this from a doctor, preferably one who knows all the medicines you are on, and all of your medical conditions.  I am phobic of bees.  Nothing but SSRI’s (only two actually, Prozac, and Celexa) and Xanax in combination were effective. Some things are just TOO FREAKIN’ MUCH for some people.  Sometimes you just have to get sedated.  Not a general rule of thumb, by any means.  Dan is correct in saying airports are now far worse than airplanes ever thought about being. G – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying? Don’t fly. The nasty treatment at the airport can be far worse than the actually flight itself. If you can handle the airport you can handle the flight.

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"If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve" Correction Meryl:  If flying on an American airline take food or you WILL starve. G

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Thanks, but my anxiety (on a scale of 1 to 10) is a 20.  I can NOT fly. That is the problem – I am so fearful that I can’t even plan a trip, so I never get to the point where I can pop a couple of Xanax and get on the plane!

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying? There are many ways to deal with this. 1. Just go through it and desensitize yourself to the experience if the phobia is minor/moderate. 2. Playing music tapes during the flight to distract yourself, especially if the flight is short. 3. A short-term, low-dose anti-anxiety med, like Ativan or Xanax, if a doctor prescribes it. I don’t know what else. I believe John Madden has the same phobia and travels on trains only. That may be another option. Personally, I would just take a .5 of Klonopin as it alone would take care of symptoms. The thoughts, however, will not be erased by an anti-anxiety med. Only desensitization will eventually erase the connection between flying and fear.

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Thank you.  I had heard about the online course and plan to begin soon.  A lot of airlines USED to offer courses, but I can’t seem to find one now that does and comes to my area.  Anyone who knows of one which occasionally comes to Cincinnati, Dayton, or Louisville, please kindly let me know!

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – method of communication, so pecked out: Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying? I dunno. I ran across this, and since it’s free – why not go through it? http://www.fearofflyinghelp.com/ I know that many airlines have courses that desensitize you and it’s professional and friendly. That would be my first choice, in that learning about planes and working up to sitting in a plane that isn’t going anywhere (just sitting on the ground) – and perhaps simulations – may be a good route to take. It’s therapy – exposure therapy, as well as how you perceive the different fears. I’m sure they’ve dealt with all of them. Contact your local airport and see just what they many have to offer. I believe they do and can help most people. — Elliott remove yourshoes to email http://www.unitedmedia.com/creators/ballardst/ If you want a new idea, read an old book.

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Thanks, Meryl!  I do have a prescription for Xanax, though it is really only a "security blanket" in that I carry it to feel safe.  I have only had to take it twice in the 6 years I have had the prescription.  How much do you take?

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – For me, double my normal Xanax dose the night before the flight and extra Xanax before the flight. Listening to the more soothing music during take-off and landing or at other times. Sitting in an aisle seat so that I felt I could move around. Drinking lots of water. I also have a bag with goodies such as hand creams, rosewater sprays. Magazines, books, neck pillow. Telling attendants. I find they can be very careful. Watching attendants if something makes you feel nervous. I figure if there was a significant problem I would be able to tell by their reaction. Focus on destination. If flying on an American airline take food or you may starve <g. Meryl I am desperate!  Who can tell me what REALLY works for fear of flying?  I have tried so many different things that I just don’t want to spend the money (and time) again unless I have some hope that it will work!  I sometimes feel guilty, too, participating in anxiety forums because my problem sounds so trivial compared to the great burdens some of the participants carry.  However, it is ruining my life, not to mention my husband’s life!  He is the most patient man in the world, but we are now getting to the point in life where travel is a real possibility, and I can’t even think about it.  If anyone out there has any suggestions, please give them to me!  Our oldest son is graduating college and looking for employment all over the country.  It is my dream to be able to visit him!  Thanks!

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Question of the day…. 12/11/05

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No. smiles, Elise

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12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when  driving?

On the rare occasion I have sweets (chocolate) in the car, there is never any left by the time I get home.  I almost always have a bottle or two of water, on a long highway drive I’ll drink it while driving, in town I’ll drink it at a red light. Tono Jackie ~*~Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again~*~

Yes, I still do it.  OCD. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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::Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when driving?

I might have a mint in my mouth just to keep my mouth moist. Other than that, no eating or drinking while the car is moving. — Ron P Just remember….if the world didn’t suck, we’d all fall off. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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"Jacqueline"  wrote 12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when driving? Jackie

If I’m alone in the car, I mostly smoke cigarettes. Sometimes I’ll have a soft drink with me. If Mom is in the car I rarely consume anything while driving. Deirdre — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Jacqueline wrote : Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when driving?

        I’ll drink water, or decaf coffee, when driving.  As for ’something else’, I drink alcohol very little.   There’s a drunk driving law in this state, so having a ‘designated driver’ has become a custom. Dennis — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when

driving? no…..I do listen to the CD player. Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when  driving? Jackie ~*~Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again~*~      ~~ Rosa Parks —

I rarely eat while I’m driving.  I’m most apt to be caught drinking coffee while driving.   Jess — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when  driving? Jackie ~*~Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again~*~      ~~ Rosa Parks

Sometimes I’ll sip a soda, if I’m headed home after picking up some fast food.  That’s a pretty rare occasion nowadays. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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12/11/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) Do you eat candy/sweets or drink water (or something else ;) when  driving? Jackie ~*~Have you ever been hurt and the place tries to heal a bit, and you just pull the scar off of it over and over again~*~     ~~ Rosa Parks

No, I can’t cos I’d fall off my bike ;-) — _TJ_ <TJ_IREL at YAHOO dot IE — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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OT: Question of the day…. 11/20/05

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?    None, and after my previous experience with one, I don’t particularly want another one. Though I keep getting letters from my bank offering me cards with a pre-approved limit of $30,000!!! I think my entire salary would not even cover the interest on that. I have no idea why they are offering it to me.    The last card I didn’t ask for. A finance company transferred my loan over to their credit card scheme so they could up my interest rate to 29.5%. And the card wasn’t even accepted by anyone, anywhere, it was solely being used by the comany as a way to get around the laws regarding loans.

Credit card companies make their money off of people who are willing to run up huge debt that they are unable to pay off.  I’m not a bit surprised you are getting offers for a credit limit that is way beyond what you can actually afford. A few years ago, I went back to college to get my degree.  The street across from the university was always littered with credit card companies, offering t-shirts and God knows what else to anyone that would sign up.  They were intentionally targeting the young kids, the students who hadn’t learned how to manage their money yet.  I could just see a young person racking up a huge credit card bill with ungodly interest — that probably Mommy and Daddy would have to help them out with.  It really mad me angry to see the vendors there.  Vultures. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?

   None, and after my previous experience with one, I don’t particularly want another one. Though I keep getting letters from my bank offering me cards with a pre-approved limit of $30,000!!! I think my entire salary would not even cover the interest on that. I have no idea why they are offering it to me.    The last card I didn’t ask for. A finance company transferred my loan over to their credit card scheme so they could up my interest rate to 29.5%. And the card wasn’t even accepted by anyone, anywhere, it was solely being used by the comany as a way to get around the laws regarding loans. REALESTATE: biggest buy/rent/share listings   http://ninemsn.realestate.com.au — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?

We have a few different ones in use and we never carry a balance over to the next billing period. — Ron P Just remember….if the world didn’t suck, we’d all fall off. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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"Jacqueline"  wrote 11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie

I am most happy to report that I have NO credit cards.  I did the 10-year bankruptcy thing in 1996 when I was way over my head in debt, unemployed, and newly diagnosed and deemed disabled. One more year and, if I wanted to, I could get a credit card. I don’t need one, I don’t want one, and I intend to continue living within my somewhat limited means. Wish me luck <lol. Deirdre — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?

I think 3.  One for business(which is on hold), one for everyday purchases, and one that I used to consolidate bills that the ex (and I) had piled up.  That one has 3.99% interest for the life of the loan, the trick is to not buy anything on that card!  Any purchases will have an interest rate of 15.99!  And all payments go toward the lowest interest loan until it’s paid off, then payments go toward the high interest items.  A card like this will wipe you out if you use it for purchases.  Do you have any debt on  them?

First 2 are paid in full every month.  The third one that consolidated what the ex ran up (and maybe I helped) is now down from the 5 digit range to the 4 digit range (at 3.99%). Tono — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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::How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Too many….. and I have some debt on most of them :) Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~ — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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1 card. $0 owing. GR 11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?

I’m happy to say that I haven’t had a credit card for more than a decade. I only have one debit card, which has been good enough for pretty much everything.  In an anxious and OCD fashion, I have managed to stay out of debt for many years, and hope to stay that way. It is possible to enjoy life without becoming a financial slave. Even if it does mean going without food for a short time, or living off of cans of mercury-tainted tuna, or living in a home that is slowly falling apart faster than can be fixed. Overall, seems a matter of trade-offs from my point of view. I just wish all of this responsible behavior and avoidance of disaster wasn’t such a turn-off to women. (groan) Best Wishes, Arthur — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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I managed to hit enter before I finished somehow, and "stop" didn’t stop the message, so I will add what I missed. I don’t like having any debt, so I pay my card just after I make the purchase. I don’t buy anything unless I have the money to pay for it at the time. That way I don’t get myself into trouble. As I don’t have a job, I can’t afford to be in debt. cheers, Gregory 11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – 11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? I’m happy to say that I haven’t had a credit card for more than a decade. I only have one debit card, which has been good enough for pretty much everything.  In an anxious and OCD fashion, I have managed to stay out of debt for many years, and hope to stay that way. It is possible to enjoy life without becoming a financial slave. Even if it does mean going without food for a short time, or living off of cans of mercury-tainted tuna, or living in a home that is slowly falling apart faster than can be fixed. Overall, seems a matter of trade-offs from my point of view. I just wish all of this responsible behavior and avoidance of disaster wasn’t such a turn-off to women. (groan) Best Wishes, Arthur

It’s hard to tell. George Costanza had success with, "I’m unemployed and I live with my parents." But, oops — that was TV, not life. Forget I said anything. Deirdre. ;-) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?

One, and we pay the balance every month.  (Learned the hard way long ago!) xxoo Anne — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them?

Have several…. use only *one* most of the time… and pay all balances each month… so no, no debt on the cards… MikeH  . — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~

I own one credit card.  I pay it completely off every month.  I have great credit. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~

No credit cards for me! At least not until I get a job again ;-) — _TJ_ — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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11/20/05: Today`s question is being brought to you by one of our very own anon poster`s  :) How many credit cards do you have?  Do you have any debt on  them? Jackie ~*~When you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; remember, things could be worse.  You could be them~*~ — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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