bdd and leaving the house
Question:
i need a maid. i need a maid to go to the store for me and pick up milk. i dont have a maid. i cant afford a maid. i cant afford a maid because i cant work. i cant work because i hate being in public where others can see how ugly i am. of course if i wasnt so ugly i wouldnt need a maid because i could go to the store and pick up milk myself on the way to work. how do others with bdd function? i give myself the encouragement to work so i can afford my precious nose job. but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. if only they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob some mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the time working and saving for something thats not going to help. why do we have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. or rather in some culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting me on billboards and covers. yack yack yack yack yes im still here. hope you were entertained.
Response:
surely not wrote in message <7hs286$m1…@autumn.news.rcn.net>… >i need a maid. i need a maid to go to the store for me and pick up milk. i >dont have a maid. i cant afford a maid. i cant afford a maid because i >cant work. i cant work because i hate being in public where others can see >how ugly i am. of course if i wasnt so ugly i wouldnt need a maid because i >could go to the store and pick up milk myself on the way to work. how do >others with bdd function?
I don’t have an official diagnosis of BDD – yet. When I’m feeling ugly I concentrate not on the beautiful people that I see but on the people that I think are even more ugly than I am. When I’ve counted 50 ugly people I don’t feel so bad about myself. >i give myself the encouragement to work so i can >afford my precious nose job.
A nose job will be a waste of time and money (and be risky to your physical health). After a nose job you would have the need to get another "problem" fixed. Keep your money. >but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. if only >they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob some >mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the >time working and saving for something thats not going to help. why do we >have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i >could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown >medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. >or rather in some culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting >me on billboards and covers. yack yack yack yack yes im still here.
I think that culture probably has a lot to do with BDD. There are always going to be loads of people who are better looking than you are though (and loads of people who are less good looking as well) so it’s something that everyone has to accept and learn to live with. Unless you went and lived in an African mud hut of course – but that would only create problems of a different nature for you. For example, the local wildlife tends to get very hungry and it doesn’t give a damn how good looking you are – as long as you are tasty. Actually, (and I am assuming that "surely not" is a female) you need to know that a lot of men are very similar to African wildlife when it comes to looking for a girlfriend. I’ve seen really ugly women going out with really good looking men (and vice versa). Which makes BDD all the more pointless… >hope you were entertained.
Was I entertained? Only in the sense of black humour. I’m more sad for you than anything else… Regards, Steve George
Response:
I was thinking that going out to pick corn was a great idea and that maybe I’d join you, then I realized you would see me…and then I would just feel the same way, but of course with no shoes, no car, hee hee… I’m new around here-I have the bdd monster as well. Nice to meet yah 
Susan surely not <imb…@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:7hs286$m1v$1@autumn.news.rcn.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> i need a maid. i need a maid to go to the store for me and pick up milk. i > dont have a maid. i cant afford a maid. i cant afford a maid because i > cant work. i cant work because i hate being in public where others can see > how ugly i am. of course if i wasnt so ugly i wouldnt need a maid because i > could go to the store and pick up milk myself on the way to work. how do > others with bdd function? i give myself the encouragement to work so i can > afford my precious nose job. but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. if > only they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob some > mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the > time working and saving for something thats not going to help. why do we > have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i > could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown > medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. or rather in some > culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting me on billboards > and covers. yack yack yack yack yes im still here. hope you were > entertained.
Response:
well you can do corn and I can do potatoes. Or better yet well make it a tribe where its law to where a bag over your head. You know I dont think it would bother me for another bdder to see me just the rest of the fucking public. We need ocd/bdd get togethers. P.S. Tell your monster to tell my monster to go fuck its self. -nice to mee you also- 
Cory & Susan Robinson <cjr…@home.com> wrote in message news:rkr03.22020$1D5.40342@news.rdc1.ab.wave.home.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I was thinking that going out to pick corn was a great idea and that maybe > I’d join you, then I realized you would see me…and then I would just feel > the same way, but of course with no shoes, no car, hee hee… > I’m new around here-I have the bdd monster as well. > Nice to meet yah > Susan > surely not <imb…@hotmail.com> wrote in message > news:7hs286$m1v$1@autumn.news.rcn.net… > > i need a maid. i need a maid to go to the store for me and pick up milk. > i > > dont have a maid. i cant afford a maid. i cant afford a maid because i > > cant work. i cant work because i hate being in public where others can > see > > how ugly i am. of course if i wasnt so ugly i wouldnt need a maid because > i > > could go to the store and pick up milk myself on the way to work. how do > > others with bdd function? i give myself the encouragement to work so i > can > > afford my precious nose job. but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. > if > > only they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob > some > > mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the > > time working and saving for something thats not going to help. why do we > > have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i > > could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown > > medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. or rather in some > > culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting me on billboards > > and covers. yack yack yack yack yes im still here. hope you were > > entertained.
Response:
right now Im not because for one thing i hate leaving the house and the other reason is I have an hmo so in order for me to get any counseling Id have to go to there center whick is an hour and a half away from my house. I know what you mean about dropping out and such. I didnt even finish high school. I started to go to community college last year because they had courses I could do at home and over the internet. The only thing was I had to actually take he tests on campus. So to make a story short my report card was decorated in charming f’s. Every job Ive had I quit because of this. Right now Im working midnights at a convienet store which I thought would solve the problem becaue there would be few customers but ha! Even ones to many. Im playing the lottery now. If any of you ocders have any luck numbers (I know you do) please share. Have you ever seen a person with ocd fill out a lotter slip? I crack myself up! Im glad bdd has sort of vanished for you, or at least has taken a break. Im sorry for the reason it left though. The way I feel right now Id happily just have my ocd than the bdd but Ive been known to change my mind. monkey <mon…@gilligansisland.net> wrote in message
news:37422112.E49819F3@gilligansisland.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> surely not wrote: > > how do > > others with bdd function? > Hi, > I stopped functioning when I had BDD. I stopped > going out with friends, I dropped out of college, > I quit my job, I became severely depressed … not > a good life. As I got well again I began to > function again. > (I don’t know how I got well … as with OCD and > the symptoms waxing and waning I think my BDD > symptoms just went away. Hopefully they are gone > for good but I feel I am prepared if I ever get > those icky thoughts again.) > > i give myself the encouragement to work so i can > > afford my precious nose job. but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. if > > only they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob some > > mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the > > time working and saving for something thats not going to help. > Yeah, I went to a cosmetic surgeon too about my > ‘hideous eyes’ (they aren’t but I thought they > were – you know what I mean) He wouldn’t touch > them cause the are not hideous but I know the > feeling you are describing – just wanting to ‘fix’ > everything. I don’t think like this at all anymore > – in fact I’m the opposite – I love my eyes! > > why do we > > have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i > > could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown > > medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. or rather in some > > culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting me on billboards > > and covers. > Every culture has a standard of beauty but I do > think beauty is definitely over-emphasized in > North American culture in place of other > qualities; respect, uniqueness and tolerance. > Anyway … you have BDD even if you looked like > how you wanted you would still want to hide from > being in public and having others look at you – > you would find something to obsess over. Are you > getting any sort of treatment? > — > Monkey > http://pages.hotbot.com/health/sillychickens/ > mon…@gilligansisland.net > (to email me axe ‘gilligans’) > —
Response:
surely not wrote: > how do > others with bdd function?
Hi, I stopped functioning when I had BDD. I stopped going out with friends, I dropped out of college, I quit my job, I became severely depressed … not a good life. As I got well again I began to function again. (I don’t know how I got well … as with OCD and the symptoms waxing and waning I think my BDD symptoms just went away. Hopefully they are gone for good but I feel I am prepared if I ever get those icky thoughts again.) > i give myself the encouragement to work so i can > afford my precious nose job. but a nose job dosent suffice the beastly. if > only they could do something with me cheeks then my ears then the blob some > mistake as a body. of course i think im beyond surgery so why waste the > time working and saving for something thats not going to help.
Yeah, I went to a cosmetic surgeon too about my ‘hideous eyes’ (they aren’t but I thought they were – you know what I mean) He wouldn’t touch them cause the are not hideous but I know the feeling you are describing – just wanting to ‘fix’ everything. I don’t think like this at all anymore – in fact I’m the opposite – I love my eyes! > why do we > have to be so selfish. i much rather be in a tribe of some sort. there i > could pick my corn or whaterver and finish the day living on home grown > medicine. i wouldnt need a car nor shoes nor a mirror. or rather in some > culture that isnt so supperficial without models taunting me on billboards > and covers.
Every culture has a standard of beauty but I do think beauty is definitely over-emphasized in North American culture in place of other qualities; respect, uniqueness and tolerance. Anyway … you have BDD even if you looked like how you wanted you would still want to hide from being in public and having others look at you – you would find something to obsess over. Are you getting any sort of treatment? — Monkey http://pages.hotbot.com/health/sillychickens/ mon…@gilligansisland.net (to email me axe ‘gilligans’) —
