college anxiety (ocd?)
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Hey Ideen! I had a similar situation. Two days after graduating from HS I was off to a 4 year school that was 3 hours away. i was completely miserable and depressed. My parents came down 2 weeks later, withdrew me from school and moved me home. I went to Jr. college for four years (part time) and then tranferred to a four year school to finish up. I feel that was the best thing I could have done for myself. Living away from home for the first time is tough enough and when you layer the joy 
of OCD on top of that, it makes things worse sometimes. After a semester at the 4 year school (Which was a 45 min. drive from home), I was ready to move away to be closer to school. You know what is best for you sometimes. If living on campus did not feel right just now that is OK. You can focus on your studies and when you are ready, you can then move out. It is true that a lot of freshman do flunk out. Alot of my friends who went AWAY to college were in my Jr. college classes the next semester. Don’t stress! Enjoy living at home while you can! Lia
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Does anyone here have mental compulsions; that is, when a "bad" thought or image comes into mind, you combat it with a "good" thought or image?
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Who here knows how to subscribe to the Marist University OCD support group?
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I use a technique to combat occasional intrusive mental images. If I see a face for example, I turn it upside down, make it smaller, change its color, make it Chinese, African, etc (an upside down Chinese person is interesting), and put it below my feet, etc. It helps alot! cheers, DF
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Ideen Barimani wrote: > thanks for the reply guys.. right now I am having feeling of extreme depression, > uncertainty, confusion, misery, anything negative I have it..most of my friends > have been supportive but didn’t know what the big deal was of me staying there.. > I am not emotionally ready.. I have never been this unhappy and pray to god that > this will pass.. I’ve been a pretty unhappy person since I got into Maryland and > was quite sane beforehand, what can I do to feel better?
Hi Ideen, It seems that you are going through some major life changes. This can really be hard for some people to cope with. OCD can fill you head up with self-doubt – am I doing the right thing? am I at the right uni? am I not ready to move out? do my friend think I’m weak? what if I fail?, what if I can’t cope? etc … I go through this a lot and it can be very overwhelming because I tend to think about ALL my problems at once instead of just one or two. This can create a spiral of thoughts that go nowhere but down sometimes. Not good … yuk! The way I cope is to distract myself from all my worries for as long as I can – I know it’s hard. I use loud music. I just put on some music, crank the volume and cut loose. Try and find something to distract you if only for a moment. Then I try to write out my worries – one per page. It helps me see them as separate individual worries and not one huge overwhelming mass of confusion. Then I can just select one worry (a page) and try to focus on solving that instead of trying to solve everything at once. That is just what works for me and it is only a suggestion … it might work for you – might not … I don’t know. Try to see the positives in your situation and do something that makes yourself feel good. Sounds like you need a good laugh to help you break out of the bad feelings and to ease the tension … rent a comedy movie, go to a comedy club or go to a joke website … give yourself a laugh! It helps takes the edge off … for me at least. Good luck Ideem. — Monkey http://pages.hotbot.com/health/sillychickens/ mon…@gilligansisland.net (to email me axe ‘gilligans’) —
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Hi, I have a lot of friends that go to Maryland. I live in Marlboro, and have been there about 100 times. They live in Alacott, Denton, Elxton. I am a "rich prick", but I think Maryland is great. It is normal to have those feelings though OCD can make it more difficult. I lived thousands of miles away from my house where I am going to school. It was difficult. You really should give it time, develop a routine that works. Scincerely, -Green
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thanks for the reply guys.. right now I am having feeling of extreme depression, uncertainty, confusion, misery, anything negative I have it..most of my friends have been supportive but didn’t know what the big deal was of me staying there.. I am not emotionally ready.. I have never been this unhappy and pray to god that this will pass.. I’ve been a pretty unhappy person since I got into Maryland and was quite sane beforehand, what can I do to feel better?
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hi there… this is probably normal anxiety made worse by ocd. my opinion(for what it’s worth:-) ) is if you live 25 miles away and you can get transport keep attending but don’t live on campus. my husband travels 21 miles to college each day. it’s got to take some of the pressure off you if youve got a solid home base to return to each night. concentrate on your studies for now- thats whats important, you can tackle moving out when you feel more settled. GAIL – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Ideen Barimani wrote in message <36B62FEC.7C469…@hotmail.com>… >Hi everyone, I was wondering if this has anything to do with ocd or just >plain anxiety After 5 days of living in a hotel room until they would >move me into a dorm where dorm life is supposedly horrible (4-6 showers >for a floor of 60 people) at University of Maryland I just packed up all >my things and cancelled my housing agreement and moved back to my house >which is just 25 minutes away.. I wasn’t happy there from the time I >moved in and all my friends warned me for the most part that it’s not >the best place to be (acadmeically it’s very good) in terms of social >life unless you’re in a frat or just a rich prick, my parents also >warned me not to go because of a 70% attrition rate (failure rate) for >1st semester students…… I did feel homesick as well but I felt >lonely as well even though a lot of my friends from high school were >there..is this typical of a student just moving away from home and then >deciding to go back this fast or do I have serious ocd? I hope I don’t >seem like a lunatic but I did feel unhappy and I am feeling better being >in my house.. I turn 20 in 4 months and still have not been away from >home for a significant amount of time, it has to happen soon but I don’t >think now is the time for me.. My therapist thinks I should have stayed >and given it a chance but my friends have told me that it’s not all its >cracked up to be… >I would appreciate all responses on this newsgroup or through e-mail.. >thank you so >much.. >Ideen
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I can’t say if what you did was right or wrong but if you only live 25 minutes away from the school, living on campus seems like a *huge* waste of money to me. Save & bank that money for a rainy day! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Ideen Barimani wrote in message <36B62FEC.7C469…@hotmail.com>… >Hi everyone, I was wondering if this has anything to do with ocd or just >plain anxiety After 5 days of living in a hotel room until they would >move me into a dorm where dorm life is supposedly horrible (4-6 showers >for a floor of 60 people) at University of Maryland I just packed up all >my things and cancelled my housing agreement and moved back to my house >which is just 25 minutes away.. I wasn’t happy there from the time I >moved in and all my friends warned me for the most part that it’s not >the best place to be (acadmeically it’s very good) in terms of social >life unless you’re in a frat or just a rich prick, my parents also >warned me not to go because of a 70% attrition rate (failure rate) for >1st semester students…… I did feel homesick as well but I felt >lonely as well even though a lot of my friends from high school were >there..is this typical of a student just moving away from home and then >deciding to go back this fast or do I have serious ocd? I hope I don’t >seem like a lunatic but I did feel unhappy and I am feeling better being >in my house.. I turn 20 in 4 months and still have not been away from >home for a significant amount of time, it has to happen soon but I don’t >think now is the time for me.. My therapist thinks I should have stayed >and given it a chance but my friends have told me that it’s not all its >cracked up to be… >I would appreciate all responses on this newsgroup or through e-mail.. >thank you so >much.. >Ideen
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Hi everyone, I was wondering if this has anything to do with ocd or just plain anxiety After 5 days of living in a hotel room until they would move me into a dorm where dorm life is supposedly horrible (4-6 showers for a floor of 60 people) at University of Maryland I just packed up all my things and cancelled my housing agreement and moved back to my house which is just 25 minutes away.. I wasn’t happy there from the time I moved in and all my friends warned me for the most part that it’s not the best place to be (acadmeically it’s very good) in terms of social life unless you’re in a frat or just a rich prick, my parents also warned me not to go because of a 70% attrition rate (failure rate) for 1st semester students…… I did feel homesick as well but I felt lonely as well even though a lot of my friends from high school were there..is this typical of a student just moving away from home and then deciding to go back this fast or do I have serious ocd? I hope I don’t seem like a lunatic but I did feel unhappy and I am feeling better being in my house.. I turn 20 in 4 months and still have not been away from home for a significant amount of time, it has to happen soon but I don’t think now is the time for me.. My therapist thinks I should have stayed and given it a chance but my friends have told me that it’s not all its cracked up to be… I would appreciate all responses on this newsgroup or through e-mail.. thank you so much.. Ideen
