how OCD affects others
Question:
My 10 year old daughter asked me last night. "Why do you ask so many questions. You never used to." My daughter does not know I have OCD. I don’t plan on telling her either until she is older, and hopefully she then might understand it a little. Anyways, I have been symtomatic since the delivery of my last child. She is 21 months. My doctor has not found a med yet that works. My OCD was under control before my last child. It just that the meds I used to take do not work anymore. The type of OCD I have is the Pure Obsessives. I have no rituals, except for always asking for reassurance that I did not do anything wrong. I also obsess over conversations I have with people. My daughter also said to me, "I am the child, I am the one who should be asking questions." "I feel I can’t come to you anymore with something that bothers me because you doubt yourself all the time now, so how can you help me. I love you Mom but I don’t know why you worry so much about everything. So now I just go to Dad if something bothers me. You are still the best Mom in the world." I feel just aweful right now. It hurt me so much. I didn’t realize my OCD was affecting my child so much. I hate OCD!! All I want to do is cry.
Response:
G SOL77 <gso…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:19991118143011.11469.00000649@ng-fs1.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My 10 year old daughter asked me last night. "Why do you ask so many questions. > You never used to." My daughter does not know I have OCD. I don’t plan on > telling her either until she is older, and hopefully she then might understand > it a little. Anyways, I have been symtomatic since the > delivery of my last child. She is 21 months. My doctor has not found a med yet > that works. My OCD was under control before my last child. It just that the > meds I used to take do not work anymore. The type of OCD I have is the Pure > Obsessives. I have no rituals, except for always asking for reassurance that > I did not do anything wrong. I also obsess over conversations I have with > people. > My daughter also said to me, "I am the child, I am the one who should be > asking > questions." "I feel I can’t come to you anymore with something that bothers me > because you doubt yourself all the time now, so how can you help me. I love > you Mom but I don’t know why you worry so much about everything. So now I just > go to Dad if something bothers me. You are still the best Mom in the world." > I feel > just aweful right now. It hurt me so much. I didn’t realize my OCD was > affecting my child so much. I hate OCD!! All I want to do is cry.
Unfortunately your daughter is right. Fortunately you have a daughter who is open, honest and straight forward with you. I would suggest the you do the same and tell her why you have all these uncertainties, self doubts and insecurities. Your daughter seems to have a pretty good understanding of what is going on now and I see no reason why telling her about your ocd would diminish that understanding. — Take care of your "self". whatatrip rbol…@premier1.net
Response:
My two children know when I am not feeling well. They go to someone they feel will help them when in need. I think that is fine….especially if I am not in a condition to help them. Your daughter is fortunate to have a dad to go to. She may be readier than you think to find out about your mental challenge. My nine year old knows I cannot deal with crowds well, sometimes do not feel well enough to drive, or have her friends over. She has matured with independency yet she also her own challenges. My fourteen year old son has given up on me and that is OK with me. It is time he has other support persons. Nancy G SOL77 <gso…@aol.com> wrote in message
news:19991118143011.11469.00000649@ng-fs1.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> My 10 year old daughter asked me last night. "Why do you ask so many questions. > You never used to." My daughter does not know I have OCD. I don’t plan on > telling her either until she is older, and hopefully she then might understand > it a little. Anyways, I have been symtomatic since the > delivery of my last child. She is 21 months. My doctor has not found a med yet > that works. My OCD was under control before my last child. It just that the > meds I used to take do not work anymore. The type of OCD I have is the Pure > Obsessives. I have no rituals, except for always asking for reassurance that > I did not do anything wrong. I also obsess over conversations I have with > people. > My daughter also said to me, "I am the child, I am the one who should be > asking > questions." "I feel I can’t come to you anymore with something that bothers me > because you doubt yourself all the time now, so how can you help me. I love > you Mom but I don’t know why you worry so much about everything. So now I just > go to Dad if something bothers me. You are still the best Mom in the world." > I feel > just aweful right now. It hurt me so much. I didn’t realize my OCD was > affecting my child so much. I hate OCD!! All I want to do is cry.
