Problem with Nurse
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Hi Everyone; Last week on Sunday like 8-9 days ago I started propranal, my doctor told me every 2 to 3 days to come in and have my blood presure checked, I asked him where to go to have my blood presure checked, he said, "Just come in here and say HI and waive and one of use can check it for you" I was in for an apointment last week, and had it checked no problem. I though today that I should have it checked again, so I went in, just steped into the hall way there where they would be able to see me, like the doctor told me to, as I understood it, and I hear the nurses in the back groud "Look who is in the hall way" Look who is in the hall way" "Jamie is standing out there in the hall way" "You go talk to him" "No, You should go say something ..{couldent quite make this out}" One of them walked past me and glared at me without saying anything, and the rest of them just ingored me, they had to have known I was there, they were talking about me, by name. Then the doctor come out of the room he is in, and says hi, and takes my blood presure, no problem. The thing I don’t understand this; Isnt it unprofessional for these nurses to be talking about me right where they know I can hear them, Isnt it unprofessional for them to me talking about me outloud at all? These are the same nurses that I bring pens, candy, doughnuts, etc to. Why are they treating me like this???? I like my doctor a lot, he has been great to me, but do I really deserve to put up with the treatment from these nurses? Should I flat out write a letter to this doctor and tell him how unprofessional these nurses are being??? would that be approiate? Would it solve anything? Please let me know what to do!!! This is the doctor that I have been relaying on going to for years now that has helped me though tons of problems, and I dont want to stop going to him because his nurses are mean to me, but I dont see why I should have to put up with this abuse from these nurses. Please Help, Please Comment, Jamie If you recall earlier this year, I had a problem with different nurses at this office earlier this year, see following text I wrote in Jan: sorry to post this here, but i am really frustrated…. More problems with People — Serious Problems WAS: Re: Small Small Sample of the people that I think I am angry with… All 8 messages in topic – view as tree jamie dolan (AKA OCD Boy) Jan 8, 12:42 am show options Newsgroups: alt.support.ocd messages by this author problems with People — Serious Problems WAS: Re: Small Small Sample of the people that I think I am angry with… Reply to Author | Forward | Print | Individual Message | Show original | Report Abuse HI; Thanks for the good ideas. Here in an example of something that happened today. OK here is my latest problem:::: Maybe we can break this down, and figure out what is causing these feelings: Ok here is my day today: Get up at 7:45 and go to chiro and PT, exercise till about 10:30 All is well. Go to grocery get an sandwitch and salad, go home, and eat it. Karen come by with dogs, and eats lunch. I decide that I wanted to keep working on getting my christmas presents done. I decided that I wanted to make a print of a photograph for my primary doctor. I went got out my photos, went though them, etc etc, then found several I liked, and brough it to walmart, I could not decide what one i liked best, so I had walmart make like 5 print for me to decide from. Then I looked at walmart, but I could not find a 11×14 frame that I though was sutiable. So I went to kohls and looked and looked, and I finally found the perfect frame. Then i went back to walmart to pick up my prints, ad I got the finest pencil i could find. I bought by prints, and the pencils, and I bought a copy of myst the comptuer game for $20. ( I should not have spent the money, I dont have the money to spend) Then I signed the phoho j. dolan 2005 on the matt, and put the frame together with the photo i picked out, which took me a while to decide on. Then I knew my doctor was working in the immediate care unit at the clinic because it was friday afternoon and he always works there on friday afternoons. So I went over there… it was slow there any he didnt seem to mind talking to me without an apointment at all. However, I the nurse seemed anoyed…. and gave him the photo, with a bow on it that i picked out. I was kind of nervious bringint it to him, not knowing if he would like it, but I did it, and he really seemed to like it. then i get home, and all is cool… but i see my neighbors kids walking home from school, and he normally picks them up, so i ask them what is up… well they tell me that there dad, my neighbor is at the dentist again because of all the pain he is in. so i get the kids in there house, and i call there dad, he is at the dentist, and they are not able to work on him, and the strongest pain killer they will give him is Tyonel with codiene. They told him they could do nothing more. He told me that he had taken tyolyonel with codine before and it did not work. He was clearly in a lot of pain. So at 4:00 p.m. at my neighbors request, (george), I took him in to the clinic to see a doctor — which happened to be my doctor. He checked in, and went back shortly and i waited in the waiting room. This nurse the saw him, saw that I was there with him. She apherently though that he was drug seeking or something because she told him not to even waste his time seeing the doctor, and bitched him out, and told him that he should leave. So he left, and he was still in excruciating pain. So in like 45 minutes after we tried to pick up his prescruptption for tyonol with codine, but the pharmacy was so slow that we left and i went back to the clinic. and I went in and talked to the reciptionist and asked to talk to my doctor, but he was really busy, then this nurse came back out and I asked her what he should do. She tells me that I should not do anything, and that he should just take the pain kilers from the dentist and that he would be fine, I told her that he knew they would not work because he had them before and he wanted to see the doctor. well she just reamed me out telling me how i didnt know anything and that i should not be trying to help him at all, even though he was in severe pain. I asked her if he should go to the er and she told me no that I should not do anything. then she tells me to leave. to leave the building, so I ask her for her name. She refuses to give me her name. I ask the reciptionist for this ladys name, and she refuses to give me the ladys name either. and this nurse just keep hollering at me to leave., then the reciptionsit goes and hides in back as well… they are all avoiding me at this point… and i was completly polite and calm this whole entire time. now at this point, they are all hiding in there back area and there is no staff around, so i go upstairs and look for my normal nurse that i know to ask her for help. i could not find her, so i come back down stairs, and apherently by this time, my doctor got invloved, and figured out that something was going on and that i was not a happy camper….. So at this point the nurse comes to me, and says: "the doctor is going to talk to you about this, but this is the last time", and I am like what do you mean? I didnt understand what she was saying then she is like: "from now on you are going to be treated like any other paient and you can not see the doctor wtihout an apointment" (ok hello, this was all starting with a regular legitimite signin to the immidate care) so anyway the nurse keeps bitching about how i cant have this special treatment blah blah…. and finally she brings me back to an office and says the doctor is going to come in soon to talk to me. So I explain to him what happened. well it turns out that this nurse told him that I told george that he would give him narcotic pain killrs, which was completly un true. i told george that my doctor would see him and talk to him and my doctor would judge what the best course of action was. i told him that I did not say anything about him getting any pain killers from them at all. I told him that the only thing that I even mentioned to george was that maybe he could ask the doctor for a tordol shot for the pain and that was it…. so at this point, I am talking to my doctor, and i am just balling my fucking eyes outs.. and i get done explaining to him what is going on, and he tells me that basically that this is just a big mis understanding with this nurse, and that he understands that I had really good intentions and that this nurse just didnt understand what was going on. He ened up telling me that if my neighbor goerge is in that much pain — bascially once he understnad what was going on — that i need to take him to the er. then he just told me that i should just leave, and I should just see him in his office upstairs and stay away from the immediate care clinic where this nurse is. I was just crying the whole time, and my doctor told me that it ok, and he understands that I was only trying to help, and he wanted to just keep seeing me in his ofice upstairs. and by the end of the converation, I was still crying… and my doctor was giving me a hug… So I am cool with my doctor, but I dont know what I did to this nurse to make her so made, and to have her refuse care to george. I had brought this same nurse dougnuts just a couple weeks ago…. I cried for over an hour after this was all over.. and I am still very depressed now. I then ended up like 3 hours later took george to the er, and they gave him stronger … read more »
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Hi Everyone;
Hey Jamie! HI It’s more than unprofessional IMO… that is what i though.. thanks for agreeing… These are the same nurses that I bring pens, candy, doughnuts, etc to. Why are they treating me like this????
You have multiple issues which can complicate your interactions with others, it would well be that those nurses think of you as "strange" but that’s their failure not yours: it’s *their* lack of knowledge and understanding leading them to behave this way. Could it be they see your acts of kindness as being flirtatious? I dont think so…. but i dont read people well. When I bring in stuff I bring it for like everyone,,, like a couple dozen people there.. like 5 or 6 dozen doughtnuts,,,, so no one is being singled out by any means in any way…. I like my doctor a lot, he has been great to me, but do I really deserve to put up with the treatment from these nurses? Should I flat out write a letter to this doctor and tell him how unprofessional these nurses are being??? would that be approiate? Would it solve anything?
I think just telling your doc would be a good first step instead of putting it in writing, he could then talk to them and maybe solve the problem without making the situation worse. Let him know how it made you feel… My doc is pretty busy, so it is hard to sit down with him and explain this clearly… but I could write a breif private note to him explaining what is going on…… Please let me know what to do!!! This is the doctor that I have been relaying on going to for years now that has helped me though tons of problems, and I dont want to stop going to him because his nurses are mean to me, but I dont see why I should have to put up with this abuse from these nurses.
{{{Jamie}}} I truly hope your doc can sort this out for you, good luck! Thank YOu Jamie Vashti
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I guess the biggest thing is that this sort of thing has happened multiple times now in this same office / clinic… and when I started bringing in dougunuts in the first place was after they were mean to me, I though I would use some reverse pschylogoly and get them on myside by being kind after they were mean to me for no reason…. I have been repeteadly been mistreated by the nurses at this office,,, up to the point where I had one of them yell at me in front of other paients and tell me to leave because she didnt think I should see the doctor. She though I can in too often. It is very very very uncomfortable going there… jamie
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I guess the biggest thing is that this sort of thing has happened multiple times now in this same office / clinic… and when I started bringing in dougunuts in the first place was after they were mean to me, I though I would use some reverse pschylogoly and get them on myside by being kind after they were mean to me for no reason…. I have been repeteadly been mistreated by the nurses at this office,,, up to the point where I had one of them yell at me in front of other paients and tell me to leave because she didnt think I should see the doctor. She though I can in too often. It is very very very uncomfortable going there… jamie
Is this in the US? Most offices don’t try to drive away patients. Do they get paid for seeing you? Perhaps the nurses don’t understand OCD or some aspect of your situation. Why do you think they are treating you badly? _g
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!Nasty nurse!
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Hi Everyone;
Hey Jamie! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Last week on Sunday like 8-9 days ago I started propranal, my doctor told me every 2 to 3 days to come in and have my blood presure checked, I asked him where to go to have my blood presure checked, he said,"Just come in here and say HI and waive and one of use can check it for you" I was in for an apointment last week, and had it checked no problem. I though today that I should have it checked again, so I went in, just steped into the hall way there where they would be able to see me, like the doctor told me to, as I understood it, and I hear the nurses in the back groud "Look who is in the hall way" Look who is in the hall way" "Jamie is standing out there in the hall way" "You go talk to him" "No, You should go say something ..{couldent quite make this out}" One of them walked past me and glared at me without saying anything, and the rest of them just ingored me, they had to have known I was there, they were talking about me, by name. Then the doctor come out of the room he is in, and says hi, and takes my blood presure, no problem. The thing I don’t understand this; Isnt it unprofessional for these nurses to be talking about me right where they know I can hear them, Isnt it unprofessional for them to me talking about me outloud at all?
It’s more than unprofessional IMO… These are the same nurses that I bring pens, candy, doughnuts, etc to. Why are they treating me like this????
You have multiple issues which can complicate your interactions with others, it would well be that those nurses think of you as "strange" but that’s their failure not yours: it’s *their* lack of knowledge and understanding leading them to behave this way. Could it be they see your acts of kindness as being flirtatious? I like my doctor a lot, he has been great to me, but do I really deserve to put up with the treatment from these nurses? Should I flat out write a letter to this doctor and tell him how unprofessional these nurses are being??? would that be approiate? Would it solve anything?
I think just telling your doc would be a good first step instead of putting it in writing, he could then talk to them and maybe solve the problem without making the situation worse. Let him know how it made you feel… Please let me know what to do!!! This is the doctor that I have been relaying on going to for years now that has helped me though tons of problems, and I dont want to stop going to him because his nurses are mean to me, but I dont see why I should have to put up with this abuse from these nurses.
{{{Jamie}}} I truly hope your doc can sort this out for you, good luck! Vashti
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Hi Everyone; Last week on Sunday like 8-9 days ago I started propranal, my doctor told me every 2 to 3 days to come in and have my blood presure checked, I asked him where to go to have my blood presure checked, he said, "Just come in here and say HI and waive and one of use can check it for you" I was in for an apointment last week, and had it checked no problem. I though today that I should have it checked again, so I went in, just steped into the hall way there where they would be able to see me, like the doctor told me to, as I understood it, and I hear the nurses in the back groud "Look who is in the hall way" Look who is in the hall way" "Jamie is standing out there in the hall way" "You go talk to him" "No, You should go say something ..{couldent quite make this out}" One of them walked past me and glared at me without saying anything, and the rest of them just ingored me, they had to have known I was there, they were talking about me, by name. Then the doctor come out of the room he is in, and says hi, and takes my blood presure, no problem. The thing I don’t understand this; Isnt it unprofessional for these nurses to be talking about me right where they know I can hear them, Isnt it unprofessional for them to me talking about me outloud at all?
Perhaps. These are the same nurses that I bring pens, candy, doughnuts, etc to. Why are they treating me like this????
Perhaps something happened when you brought them candy and doughnuts that blurred the line between the personal and the professional. I like my doctor a lot, he has been great to me, but do I really deserve to put up with the treatment from these nurses? Should I flat out write a letter to this doctor and tell him how unprofessional these nurses are being??? would that be approiate? Would it solve anything?
No. You couldn’t quite make out what they were saying so you should give them a little slack. Please let me know what to do!!! This is the doctor that I have been relaying on going to for years now that has helped me though tons of problems, and I dont want to stop going to him because his nurses are mean to me, but I dont see why I should have to put up with this abuse from these nurses.
I don’t follow that you were abused. Maybe you were but it seems to me that there is more to the story. Perhaps it is all a misunderstanding. _g
