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Not terribly sure anymore what she thought. I think she thinks it’s simple high anxiety manifesting asx "Buyer’s Remorse" "Ann R Quay" <ann.r.q…@virgin.net> wrote in message news:3E476F95.3040706@virgin.net… > kay wrote: > > Basically, I’m just trying to stop the feelings by trying to not think > > about them too much. Sometimes Im not even sure it is OCD. > What does your psychologist think?
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And when I feel the bad mood pass, I think to myself "I have a girlfriend and her name is Cathy." and I smile to myself. "|_ /- | ||" <l…@hell.com> wrote in message news:lPB1a.67$rU5.2501@nnrp1.ozemail.com.au… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I think that the best thing is to realise that it is irrational and not give > it much thought and that it will probably always be coming and going, so > when it happens do not think that it is indicating anything, it comes and it > goes, enjoy the highs / normality and don’t panic on the lows. > — > Lain > – lain is like a brilliant drunk blathering on about this and that but never > really tieing everything they say into an intelligible thought – > http://www.googlism.com/index.htm?ism=Lain&type=1 > "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > news:CfA1a.7989$tO2.779973@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her > go > > and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just > > so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The > > other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do. > > "|_ /- | ||" <l…@hell.com> wrote in message > > news:W_41a.231$574.9908@nnrp1.ozemail.com.au… > > > I dont really have any remedies to offer you, but I HAVE FELT THAT WAY > > LOTS > > > OF TIMES AND IT SUCKS. So now you know that you are not alone & I now > know > > > that I am not alone, but we still suffer all the same… > > > Lain > > > "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > > > news:LkK0a.3518$tO2.402155@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > > > Hi, > > > > Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to > for > > a > > > > few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I > > was > > > > so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my > coworker > > > > calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to > God > > > that > > > > it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and > now > > > it > > > > feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping > > it. > > > It > > > > felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of > > > > anxiety on the edges. > > > > ARRGGHHH !!!!! > > > > K > > > > — > > > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > > > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003 > > — > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
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"kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message
news:CfA1a.7989$tO2.779973@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her go > and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just > so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The > other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do.
Send me a transcript of the other night, and I’ll give you my considered opinion 
Zorg
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"Zorg" <z…@furryworm.freeserve.co.uk> wrote in message
news:b26q3q$mlm$1@newsg3.svr.pol.co.uk… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > news:CfA1a.7989$tO2.779973@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her > go > > and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just > > so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The > > other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do. > Send me a transcript of the other night, and I’ll give you my considered > opinion > Zorg
ROFL! Lain
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LOL we already revealed to much to our online friends — we’ve become a very sexy and turbulant soap opera lol "Zorg" <z…@furryworm.freeserve.co.uk> wrote in message
news:b26q3q$mlm$1@newsg3.svr.pol.co.uk… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > news:CfA1a.7989$tO2.779973@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her > go > > and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just > > so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The > > other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do. > Send me a transcript of the other night, and I’ll give you my considered > opinion > Zorg
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kay wrote:
> Basically, I’m just trying to stop the feelings by trying to not think > about them too much. Sometimes Im not even sure it is OCD. What does your psychologist think?
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I think that the best thing is to realise that it is irrational and not give it much thought and that it will probably always be coming and going, so when it happens do not think that it is indicating anything, it comes and it goes, enjoy the highs / normality and don’t panic on the lows. — Lain – lain is like a brilliant drunk blathering on about this and that but never really tieing everything they say into an intelligible thought – http://www.googlism.com/index.htm?ism=Lain&type=1 "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message
news:CfA1a.7989$tO2.779973@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her go > and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just > so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The > other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do. > "|_ /- | ||" <l…@hell.com> wrote in message > news:W_41a.231$574.9908@nnrp1.ozemail.com.au… > > I dont really have any remedies to offer you, but I HAVE FELT THAT WAY > LOTS > > OF TIMES AND IT SUCKS. So now you know that you are not alone & I now know > > that I am not alone, but we still suffer all the same… > > Lain > > "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > > news:LkK0a.3518$tO2.402155@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > > Hi, > > > Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to for > a > > > few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I > was > > > so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my coworker > > > calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to God > > that > > > it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and now > > it > > > feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping > it. > > It > > > felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of > > > anxiety on the edges. > > > ARRGGHHH !!!!! > > > K > > > — > > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003 > — > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
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On Sun, 09 Feb 2003 21:31:01 GMT, "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote: >And I think lot about what some people say might be a case of "Buyer’s >Regret" or "New Lover’s Syndrome." I just dont want Cathy and I to end, but >I feel myself being pulled toward it. Haven’t been this miserable in a long >time.
Can someone please explain what "buyer’s regret/remorse" is? Sounds like something I experience, but I have to know what it is first.
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"Insane Dude" <insaned…@no.spam.com> wrote in message
news:3e46d801.59266785@news.md.comcast.giganews.com… > On Sun, 09 Feb 2003 21:31:01 GMT, "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> > wrote: > >And I think lot about what some people say might be a case of "Buyer’s > >Regret" or "New Lover’s Syndrome." I just dont want Cathy and I to end, but > >I feel myself being pulled toward it. Haven’t been this miserable in a long > >time. > Can someone please explain what "buyer’s regret/remorse" is? Sounds > like something I experience, but I have to know what it is first.
I’spose its like when you choose between two different coloured cars and after you brought the Red one, you will be left feeling that maybee the Blue one would be better. The grass is Greener on the other side… But with people, there are feelings involved, thats why its much more terryfing / intense. Lain
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And because it might not be OCD, I feel like maybe I should just let her go and not drag her though this anymore and end this conflict in myself. Just so strange to be in love and now only feel it when my mind is clear. The other night on the sofa was so wonderful. I dont know what to do. "|_ /- | ||" <l…@hell.com> wrote in message news:W_41a.231$574.9908@nnrp1.ozemail.com.au… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I dont really have any remedies to offer you, but I HAVE FELT THAT WAY LOTS > OF TIMES AND IT SUCKS. So now you know that you are not alone & I now know > that I am not alone, but we still suffer all the same… > Lain > "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > news:LkK0a.3518$tO2.402155@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > Hi, > > Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to for a > > few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I was > > so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my coworker > > calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to God > that > > it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and now > it > > feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping it. > It > > felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of > > anxiety on the edges. > > ARRGGHHH !!!!! > > K > > — > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
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Basically, I’m just trying to stop the feelings by trying to not think about them too much. Sometimes Im not even sure it is OCD. I’m just afraid I’ll end up in a pattern like Lain if I give in and end this relationship. I can see it happening. There really isn’t a reason to end it at all, save for these stupid feelings. "Ann R Quay" <ann.r.q…@virgin.net> wrote in message news:3E438670.80809@virgin.net… > kay wrote: > > I began having more spikes and now it feels like my damn problem might > > come back, so Im working of stopping it. > How are you doing that (’stopping it’)?
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And I think lot about what some people say might be a case of "Buyer’s Regret" or "New Lover’s Syndrome." I just dont want Cathy and I to end, but I feel myself being pulled toward it. Haven’t been this miserable in a long time. Ken "Ann R Quay" <ann.r.q…@virgin.net> wrote in message news:3E4607CE.5050402@virgin.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> |_ /- | || wrote: > > I hope that u going somewhere with this Ann… > Where I go with it depends on the answer. I don’t think he’ll answer. > I’ve asked him a few other questions and never received a reply. > I suspect that Ken might be trying to control his obsessions with the > ‘thought stopping’ methods he mentioned earlier. If he is, he’s likely > going to find them ineffective and they may actually make his obsessions > far worse. If he does indeed have OCD and his therapy involves snapping > an elastic band on his wrist each time he has an ‘bad’ thought, I would > suggest to him finding a therapist who knows how to treat OCD. From what > he’s written I suspect his psychologist does not have this expertise. > > Cos the feeling Kay describes really SUCKS! > I agree with you that OCD ‘really SUCKS’ and this is precisely why I > think getting *proper* OCD treatment is very important.
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|_ /- | || wrote: > I hope that u going somewhere with this Ann… Where I go with it depends on the answer. I don’t think he’ll answer. I’ve asked him a few other questions and never received a reply. I suspect that Ken might be trying to control his obsessions with the ‘thought stopping’ methods he mentioned earlier. If he is, he’s likely going to find them ineffective and they may actually make his obsessions far worse. If he does indeed have OCD and his therapy involves snapping an elastic band on his wrist each time he has an ‘bad’ thought, I would suggest to him finding a therapist who knows how to treat OCD. From what he’s written I suspect his psychologist does not have this expertise. > Cos the feeling Kay describes really SUCKS! I agree with you that OCD ‘really SUCKS’ and this is precisely why I think getting *proper* OCD treatment is very important.
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"Ann R Quay" <ann.r.q…@virgin.net> wrote in message news:3E438670.80809@virgin.net… > kay wrote: > > I began having more spikes and now it feels like my damn problem might > > come back, so Im working of stopping it. > How are you doing that (’stopping it’)?
I hope that u going somewhere with this Ann… Cos the feeling Kay describes really SUCKS! Lain
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Thanks, Lain. Great friend already and I thank you. Aye, I’ve talked to a number of men since this all began and 5 of them have all said that they have seen or experienced this same phenomena. The great thing is that, while I wake with this feeling still and feel it off and on during the day, the last couple of nights it’s completely subsided while Cathy and I talked on the phone. Last night was WONDERFUL just talking for 5 hours while each of us lay on our sofas at home watching TV. And Im talking with her tonight and all is going well, inspite of some hellacious spikes. These two night of total clarity have helped a great deal. She still smart, sexy, funny, and my best time to be with ever. I can’t wait for a lifetime of nights like last night and tonight. Ken "|_ /- | ||" <l…@hell.com> wrote in message news:W_41a.231$574.9908@nnrp1.ozemail.com.au… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I dont really have any remedies to offer you, but I HAVE FELT THAT WAY LOTS > OF TIMES AND IT SUCKS. So now you know that you are not alone & I now know > that I am not alone, but we still suffer all the same… > Lain > "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message > news:LkK0a.3518$tO2.402155@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… > > Hi, > > Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to for a > > few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I was > > so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my coworker > > calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to God > that > > it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and now > it > > feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping it. > It > > felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of > > anxiety on the edges. > > ARRGGHHH !!!!! > > K > > — > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
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> I began having more spikes and now it feels like my damn problem might > come back, so Im working of stopping it. How are you doing that (’stopping it’)?
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I dont really have any remedies to offer you, but I HAVE FELT THAT WAY LOTS OF TIMES AND IT SUCKS. So now you know that you are not alone & I now know that I am not alone, but we still suffer all the same… Lain "kay" <kaydozh…@earthlink.nets> wrote in message
news:LkK0a.3518$tO2.402155@newsread1.prod.itd.earthlink.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi, > Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to for a > few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I was > so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my coworker > calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to God that > it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and now it > feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping it. It > felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of > anxiety on the edges. > ARRGGHHH !!!!! > K > — > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
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Hi, Just come to vent again. I finally get to feeling the way I want to for a few hours only to have my problems try to manifest themselves again. I was so happy for hours today until the "new lover’s syndrome" as my coworker calls it tried to come back and threatens to now. I was thankful to God that it went away, but when I thanked Him, I began having more spikes and now it feels like my damn problem might come back, so Im working of stopping it. It felt good to be clear headed again and I still am, but feel a ting of anxiety on the edges. ARRGGHHH !!!!! K — Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.445 / Virus Database: 250 – Release Date: 1/21/2003
