soccer kid
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My almost 9 yr old daughter has been playing on the same soccer team for 3 years. She is not a super athlete but she like others mentioned enjoyed being goalie, and she was getting really good at it until some of the other girls started putting her down and managed to convince her that she wasnt good at it! The coaches have been pretty good about working with her and being patient but they decided to take a back seat this year and have a new head coach who is going to take the team Premier. That means more expense, more practise, more travel and more stress! My daughter decided to go ahead and try out for the team, so she went and it was pretty awful! The new coach said she could come back and try again if she would like but she was pretty humiliated! She decided (on her own, but with our support)that maybe she needs to find something else to do this year and then decide if she would like to get back into soccer. She would like to do horses but I am afraid that is just too expensive, and she has mentioned volleyball but the season doesnt start for a while. Does anyone have any good ideas? Has anyone had experience with TS kids in theatre? She is very dramatic and quite the little actress, I just dont know what kind of effect being on stage would have on her! Sorry this is so long!!!! My heart has been breaking for her lately! The differences are becoming more and more obvious to her friends and she has really been struggling! Thanks in advance for any advice! Cathy
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>She >would like to do horses but I am afraid that is just too expensive, and she >has >mentioned volleyball but the season doesnt start for a while. Does anyone >have >any good ideas? Has anyone had experience with TS kids in theatre?
What part of the country are you in? A quality theatre program can be just as expensive as horses, but just as effective. E-mail me your questions and I can talk more 
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Has anyone had experience with TS kids in theatre? She is >very dramatic and quite the little actress, I just dont know what kind of >effect being on stage would have on her!
Many decades ago, when I was a little girl with undiagnosed TS, I was in a similar situation as your daughter. A kindly drama club teacher, who was also my English teacher, suggested that I try out for the club. I did. It was great. I got the PART. I got MORE parts. I got an Award. It helped to change my life. DO IT!! KAT in CT
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>DO IT!! >KAT in CT
Ditto … but unlike when you were a kid, Kat, there are lots of folks out there making money off of kids in theatre now … you have to know what kind of program to look for to be sure your child has a good experience and the priorities are straight — exactly like with soccer! I’m talking to Amom22 privately on this … if anyone wants a copy, e-mail me.
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HI Kat! Thanks for your responce! I am going to do some calling around today and see if there are any openings in a small local theatre group for kids. They hold 2 week summer sessions and hopefully they will still have an opening. When soccer was the priority she was going to attend soccer camp in July, maybe we can do this instead. From the time Sarah was one yr old my sister has maintained that Sarah should be an actress! :) Thanks again for you input! Every piece of info is very helpful!
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>Has anyone had experience with TS kids in theatre? She is >very dramatic and quite the little actress, I just dont know what kind of >effect being on stage would have on her!
Hi! I think theatre may be a great idea. I was in theatre in high school, and it made a big difference in my self-esteem. I noticed that the kids in our drama troupe, as well as those of the other troupes we met during competitions and such were not only incredibly accepting of people who were different, they encouraged those differences in eachother! Dominique
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blessed…@aol.com (BlessedBy2) wrote: >>DO IT!! >>KAT in CT >Ditto … but unlike when you were a kid, Kat, there are lots of folks out >there making money off of kids in theatre now … you have to know what kind of >program to look for
I’m sure about that! However, don’t they have drama clubs in schools anymore too? We couldn’t have afforded it any other way. Or community theatre’s of volunteers? I hope those haven’t gone by the boards too. KAT in CT
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amo…@aol.com (Amom2 2) wrote: >HI Kat! Thanks for your responce! I am going to do some calling around today >and see if there are any openings in a small local theatre group for kids. >They hold 2 week summer sessions and hopefully they will still have an opening. >When soccer was the priority she was going to attend soccer camp in July, maybe >we can do this instead.
Don’t forget the soccer either if she still wants to? Unfortunately those other girls who hurt her self esteem are the problem: not the soccer itself. If she has the right coach who encourages her and/or trainers, it’s still a great physical outlet for her. KAT in CT
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Has anyone had experience with TS kids in theatre? She is >very dramatic and quite the little actress, I just dont know what kind of >effect being on stage would have on her!
We have had a wonderful experience with Theatre! My daughter was dx in 5th grade. She had always been The Athelete. Then she couldn’t run around the track with out stumbling and falling. Broke my heart. I always wore sunglasses to make my tears less evident and so not to embarass her. In 7th grade she discovered Theatre. She has never had a tic onstage! You could hear her backstage before the program began. The teacher would say something like…we have student with TS, and that is the noises you are hearing. We’re used to it and it doesn’t bother us so don’t let it bother you….. When my daughter would onstage, speaking, singing or dancing…no tics. This seems pretty characteristic when people with TS are concentrating, tics lessen or disappear. Now she is in high school. A pretty big one for this state (Oregon). She has become accomplished backstage, (her organizational abilities courtesy of OCD have saved the day more than once. ) She has had major roles on stage with no tics. This summer, as of yesterday, she is Asst. Director for Godspell at the local private University. And she will only be starting her Jr. year of high school. Try theatre. If it doesn’t work keep looking. It is so wonderful for these kiddos (I guess its true for any kiddo) to be known for their expertise in something rather than that they are the one with TS. Sorry this is so long!!!! My heart >has been breaking for her lately! The differences are becoming more and more >obvious to her friends and she has really been struggling! Thanks in advance >for any advice!
We also found that early alienation from most "friends" who couldn’t take her differences. But her Theatre friends see her first as a talented, (sometimes play saving) person, and way down the list is the TS. Keep looking. Best to you, K.C. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Cathy
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Hi–our daughter with TS has been involved in theater since the age of 4. Many parents of children with TS have described their kids with TS as having a ‘photographic’ auditory memory. Ours appeared to have this along with a photographic visual-motor memory. These abilities helped her excel in this area. Theater continues to be a very strong area of interest for her, and she still says that someday she hopes to be on ‘Broadway.’ I very much agree with Blessed that one must be careful about the type of theater program that their child participates in. It is important to find a group that fosters self-esteem. We were fortunate in this regard–all students, whether they had lead roles or small parts, were always made to feel that what they did was of equal importance. Nobody was treated or allowed to act like a "prima donna." What was most important was the camraderie amongst the kids and how they related to each other not only on stage, but more importantly, behind the scenes.
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Fangbasher wrote: >Hi–our daughter with TS has been involved in theater since the age of 4. >Many >parents of children with TS have described their kids with TS as having a >’photographic’ auditory memory. Ours appeared to have this along with a >photographic visual-motor memory.
that’s for sure … <g> >These abilities helped her excel in this >area.
not helped her excel — helped them excel! Every job counts ) > Theater continues to be a very strong area of interest for her, and >she >still says that someday she hopes to be on ‘Broadway.’
She can stay with us …
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Blessed wrote: >>She can stay with us …<<
Her bags are packed 
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